The trainer and my senior at my new job doesn't like me. She rolls her eyes with any questions people have and seems like she is being put off if you ask. Should I talk to my supervisor? I overheard that she is telling people she doesn't like me I don't understand. I know what I am doing. I have been in this business for a long time, I have totally impressed my supervisors but she hates me why? No one hates me. I am so nice!
2007-03-08 04:33:41 · 18 answers · asked by Lindsey Lou 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need to go to someone, like your supervisor or someone above them. Explain what this woman is doing. I think if theyll pay attention to the situation, theyll give her a talk and youll be just fine, as long as youre doing your job well. It sounds like the woman is jealous of you for some reason.*
2007-03-08 07:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Check this out! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, go to your supervisor and make him/her aware of the fact that there's some dissension with your trainer and you'd like to get to the bottom of what her problem is with you. Then ask your supervisor if you should speak to your trainer alone or if your supervisor should be brought into the mix. That way you have followed the proper chain of command, and you've also made your supervisor aware that there's a problem that you did not create. Either way you need to know just what her (the trainer's) problem is.
2007-03-08 12:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definately let your supervisor know. He/she needs to pull the trainer into the office and have a talk with her about this. Teh boss does not need to know that you said anything. All they need to say is that they overheard them talking. She is jealous of you because you have been in the business for so long and is afraid that you will show her up. If she is that insecure in her position she needs to look elsewhere for a job.
2007-03-08 12:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she doesn't like you because everybody else does and she probably feels like you're being fake but it's clear that she's intimidated by you. There are plenty of people in this world that will hate you for being you but you can never change who you really are and these people will have to deal with it.
Anyway, I don't think you should tell your supervisor just yet because she hasn't done anything to harm, threaten you, or done anything to compromise your job. I think when she tries to harm you, threaten you, and does something that causes you to lose your job you need to report her.
2007-03-08 12:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a manager who has had many people working for me, I have found that it's impossible for everyone to like everyone in the workplace. Sometimes people are jealous or they hold biases, your actions are not to blame. So, I tell people, you don't have to like each other, but you have to work together and it's each persons responsibiliy to figure out how to get along with others. When I encounter someone that doesn't like me or makes my job harder, I figure out a strategy to deal with that particular person. Try to maintain a professional demeanor and your actions will be recognized and appreciated in the long run.
2007-03-08 12:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by C Anemone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When wok is over try catching her outside or just before she leaves and talk with her. Tell her "Look, I'm noticing you seem to dislike me, and I don't understand why. I don't want it to effect my work." keep it in very proffesional wording, she is still your supervisor so one bad word from her could mean a loss of job.
2007-03-08 12:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by artisdestiny 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Women rarely need an excuse to hate another woman specially in a working inviroment. It seems this is a prime place for catty behavior. It just takes one little thing like what you wear or how you laugh. and as the other poster already mentioned she could feel threatned by you.
If there is a guy or two in your department who gives you attention, then even that can set women off. Even if those same women are married. They love having little affairs in their heads. Should you catch the attention of one of those men, that one of these women has cast their eyes on. Beware!
2007-03-08 12:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If all the others like u, why the hell are u concerned abt. one lady. Others are also intelligent enough to understand the good & the bad, thay will continue their relationship with u like they have till now. Don`t worry about the likings & dislikings of just one person.
2007-03-09 13:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by shailendra s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the supervisor is over you senior nemesis then definitely talk to the supr. but in PRIVATE. tell her/him your concerns because if the you dont win over the trainer she could screw you pretty good.
2007-03-08 12:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by larrydoyle52 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and confront her. Its the only way you will find out. Just tell her you over heard her telling "someone" (do NOT mention names) that she did not like you and you wanted to try and resolve the issue. Let her know that you want to work with her...not against her.
2007-03-08 12:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋