I met him over a year ago....It was love at first site for both of us...Our first date was wonderful.. He told me about his ex girl...They been on again off again for 7 years.. I spoke with her and she says she will never let him go! That they love each other and will get married one day..he says never.. She even went to my house to claim him...He went with her..He called me and begged to take the high road in all this. He asked me to be patient and she will go away...we spent all the major holidays together..including his and my birthdays!...Her birthday came and went and he was with me! He says that he loves the ex and feels bad for her because she has problems..however he professess that he is IN love with me!..Does he really love me?
The x has an 8 year old child (not his child).. she dangles the child in front of him..... he loves that kid! My children are grown..I said I can't compete with that kid card..He said the NO kid card out trumps hers. Why can't he let her go????
2007-03-08 04:21:26 · 15 answers · asked by dawndelight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs to let her go and she needs to know that it's over over over!!!!
He probably does love you but she's being manipulative and that has to stop because it's likely confusing the hell outta him.
It's unfair to you! This chick sounds psycho, so obviously has some problems of some sort but that's not for you or your man to solve and I think he needs to realize that he can't save this 'other woman', she's gotta save herself. He shouldn't be hanging out with her if you ask me. I'd be really uncomfortable with that and I'd make sure he knew it.
Best of luck!
2007-03-08 04:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by JD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats 7 years he had with her...it pobably is really hard for him especially if he has a heart for that kid of hers. Just be patient a little while longer and if thing keep going the way they are then tell him that you just cant wait and be patient any more that you have givin all you had to give and now its time for him to make a decision....then I guess you will find out for sure..
But whatever happens may God be with you.
2007-03-08 12:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecure. It is always nice to have two choices in life. If he fails with you, he has her to return to. He is making a life with you and trying to shuck the old life but it is really hard. I know this from personal experience. I fell deeply in love with someone else but would not let my husband go. It took 7 years before anyone made me choose. I was an extremely insecure person and having two people love me felt safe. I had to change myself in order to have a really committed relationship. I finally let me husband go and have been in the other relationship for 30 years.
2007-03-08 12:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im so sorry hun why did he go with her when she came to get him if my man did that i would end it right there cus of heart break you need to say that you cant deal with her anymore and you cant have a relationship with a man that has attatments to his ex. tell him you love him and you know he loves the kid and you arent aksing him to give that up but he needs to end it with this girl or go back to her and she has to be getting something from him cus she wont let go
and that fact that he left with her tells you he would pick you over her and tell him that hurt you and im sorry but how can you trust someone that is like this and if it doesnt change hun you need to end it im so sorry i hope things turn out babe
2007-03-08 12:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not in love with you because he's with her...Men tend to play these kind of games when they are married and have an affair..Don't fall into that trap and get out before you get hurt even more...He will never leave her if he knows he can have both of you...Think about it!!
2007-03-08 12:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll always put her first and have the expectation that you should 'take the high road'. That's fine if you're willing to accept him on those terms, but I don't think I'd fall for it. Way too much drama!!
2007-03-08 12:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the life he is leading right now sounds like a mess, maybe you are sort of in the middle of it, be careful until the situation is resolved. Maybe he really loves you, but wait and see were it goes, be slow right now and good luck.
2007-03-08 12:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Connie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to get all that trouble?
He doesn't want to let her go obviously... so why in the world would you accept that situation?
If he loved you he would give you your place... and send her in her way.... tell him love is not about words... is about action.
2007-03-08 12:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7yrs alot of history....i got a friend had a girl friend 3 years..they broke up,her fault...they were doing wedding plans @ that time.....now he has a new gf perfect in every way....yet he still feels sumthin 4 ex...cuase there was history...new gf knows....love takes time in every way.....ps new gf happy...
2007-03-08 12:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Im the lost treasure never found 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she can't let him go. He likes the kid but I think he loves you more.
2007-03-08 12:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋