Yesterday was my bf's b-day and he's in another town (2hrs away). He expected me to go see him and spend the day with him. Instead I called him and said we would do something when he got back next week. He called me back and gave me an ultimatum that went like this: "I give you till monday to show me if you really love me. I don't want words, I want actions" and hung up. I text mssg him saying "I'll miss you. Thanks for the great times" And now I'm soo sad...what should I do???
2007-03-08 04:19:26 · 18 answers · asked by shygal 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he couldnt be rational and have a mature conversation about his feelings, he clearly wants you to run around after him-so dont be walked all over and stay strong. If he realises hes made a mistake and actually cares he will come running back and do everything he can for you to forgive him-if he doesnt, then hes a good as gone. Remember, no man is worth your tears and the one who is wont make you cry!
2007-03-08 04:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by armygirl613 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If its just a two hour drive, then yes, I'd say you were wrong.
2 hours is nothing for a relationship. I used to drive 3 hours one way all the time for someone I cared about. My best friend lives 4 hours away and we take turns driving back and forth every other week.
I had a family emergency while I was out of town this week and my other best friend, who lives 2 hours away, drove in and took care of my problem for me.
Those are my best friends-- and an intimate relationship is supposed to be even closer than that!! So 2 hours on his BIRTHDAY is nothing.
You should have at least offered to meet in the middle.
For his birthday, make the effort. You're showing him you don't value him enough to put 2 hours into your relationship.
2007-03-08 12:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Icant tell u what to do but I will tell u what I would do... I would just not bother txt'n or ringing him agian until such a time that he decides to show you some respect... I think you were well in ur right to tell him u would do something when he got back. If it was so important for him to see you, why didn't he come visit you...... "I give you till monday to show me if you really love me. I don't want words, I want actions" -- Ill bet someones just expecting a birthday ride.... play it cool and let him stew for a while...
2007-03-08 12:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Point 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't understand that you weren't feeling visiting him for his b/day, or that you had other things to do-whatever, and he's gonna give you an ULTIMATUM!!?? He sounds like a control freak that wants everything HIS way. Up his. I think you may have done the right thing, because no one wants to live like that, with the signicant other trying to run everything. You can concentrate on yourself, your friends that maybe aren't around much anymore 'cuz they didn't like him, concentrate on your career, pamper yourself a little. I've had a couple of husbands like that. I don't miss them.
2007-03-08 12:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Angela L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who really loves you will not give you an ultimatum to show that you love them. I would make an effort to see him, but if you can't, you can't, and that's that. If he can't get over that, then it's his problem. You'll be better off without him anyway, he sounds like a jerk. Sorry.
2007-03-08 12:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing he has no right to demand you show up or else if he truly loves you he will apologize and say sorry and you two can work things out sounds like a bully to me
2007-03-08 12:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hes not worth it because he shouldnt have to ask u to prove ur love to him, he should have known that u love him and that u meant to do what was easiest. u already broke it off, thats the hardest part, now just give urself a little bit of time and soon enough ull be happy againg. u deserve someone that doesnt doubt ur love.
2007-03-08 12:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have gone there.text messaging him won't help, saying i miss u won2t help either, he said he wants actions, not words, right?so go there and "show" him that u love him in ur own special ways
2007-03-08 12:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by kwlcmmm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably hurt you didn't make it for his birthday. I'm sure you'd be just as upset if he did the same to you.
Anyway, you could call him up and apologise or just keep moving on....the choice is your's.
2007-03-08 12:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, respect yourself and drop this punk. Get rid of anything that might remind you of him.
Charge him to the game and move on.
2007-03-08 12:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by SuperKdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋