we are having a baby in june (little girl), as this is my first time, is it natural to worry about the most stupid random things that you probably wouldn't say out loud as they sound daft?
2007-03-08 04:18:38 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Welcome to parenthood. Worry will soon become your middle name. You worry about the health of the baby, child, teen, adult that is about to come into your family. You worry about money, you worry about the house, you worry about work, you worry whether you are ever going to have sex again. This is totally normal. I worried and worried that my child was going to have my husband's ridiculously bushy eyebrows. I was so scared that if it was a girl, she'd be ridiculed. When my son was born, I didn't care about his eyebrows, I was just so glad he was here.
Why not try sharing some of those things that you think are silly with your wife? I bet you'll be surprised because she might be thinking some of those things too and it might set your mind to ease if you just get some out. Good luck to you and CONGRATULATIONS!
2007-03-08 04:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very natural. Not too be graphic but my husband is freaked out about sex because during my first pregnancy I spotted a little after. It was perfectly fine but now he is so worried he will hurt the baby. Whenever I get a little cramp or look tired he thinks something is wrong and tellls me to lay down. I am perfectly fine but he thinks that I need to rest all the time :) He worries about being able to afford college and about dating and our first is not even 2 yet! We have one of the way in 7 months and he is already worrying about setting up the nursery and what not
It is sweet that you are concerned. Theere are not a lot of fathers out there that take the time to be concerned about these things. Its human nature to worry.
Good luck Dad!
2007-03-08 04:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the most natural thing in the world - do not worry too much though as it can spoil the most important thing that can happen to you. You are going to have a helpless precious little girl to care for so it is only natural to worry about all sorts of things - it isn't stupid it is your instincts kicking in - congrats and good luck and get plenty of sleep now before she is born
2007-03-08 04:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly natural to be worried, being a parent is the biggest responsibility you will ever have in your life but it will be the most rewarding experience as well. Talk to your partner, even if your concerns sound stupid, as the chances are she feels exactly the same. Good luck and enjoy :)
2007-03-08 04:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by franpal_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner had his first child with me 20 months ago and he was petrified of the silliest things while i was pregnant
what if he doesnt like me
what if im a rubbish dad
what if i drop him ... and so on
it might sound silly but at the time it used to keep him awake but do you know he is the best dad in the world and i truly mean it.... If you are worrying about these things it shows you care a great deal to do your job as a parent as best as you can.... we are now expecting another little boy in june so sounds like we are both going to be busy that month
Best of luck
2007-03-08 04:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by bobbleheado5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, if you say all those things out loud to another dad, they wouldn't sound daft at all...you would probably get a lot of sound advice and sympathy.
2007-03-08 04:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally relax! You will sail through! Once those sleepless nights settle down you'll be desperate to take your daughter places, show her things...even when she is tiny! You are going to be a dad....it'll make you feel proud.
I'm not sure exactly what things you are worrying about but they say that 80% of what we worry about never actually happens. Why not tell us some of the things you worry about...you be surprised most dads probably have the same kinda worries.
Congratulations!
2007-03-08 04:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With your first one, there really isn't anything so daft that you shouldn't ask about it. If your worried, find out. You don't have to run to the Doctor or midwife everytime - but your parents and other relatives will probably know exactly what your thinking.
2007-03-08 04:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by mark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think for men especially it is scary becoming a dad, women have 9 months to get use to the child forming in their wombs but I dont think it properly dawns on some men until they are actually holding their newborn. Dont feel silly about worrying for your daughter. When she arrives your petty worries will vanish for a while and will be replaced by sheer proudness and a huge grin that goes ear to ear.
Congratulations and Good Luck
2007-03-08 06:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah my husband didnt research a thing about pregnancy or child rearing until he heard about nipple confusion and then he fixated on that researching nipples for bottles so i could breastfeed and bottle without confusing the baby. my brother is having a baby and he is worried that if he doesnt get the perfect theme for his sons room his brain development will be stunted so yeah i think it is pretty normal for men to freak out because there is only so much they can do while mom is pregnant cause most of it is up to her so they think about all the things they can help with. Congrats and good luck
2007-03-08 08:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋