we had an affair 6 years ago, both left our partners but he went back to his wife i have recently been out for a drink with him again and realised my feelings have not changed, he tells me he still loves me,
2007-03-08 04:16:03 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am no longer with my partner i left the guy i was with at the time i now live with someone else, but my feelings are so strong for mr wrong
2007-03-08 04:28:34 · update #1
yes! no excuse!
2007-03-08 04:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself, you knew the answer to this quesiton before you even asked it. If you truly want a healthy relationship, find someone who is free to love you, not these games. Even if you ended up cheating with him and he left his wife, the chances are good you would end up the wife he was having an affair on in the future. Let it go.
2007-03-08 04:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by ReneeD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong. Doesn't matter how much he cares about you. If he is married, stay out of it. I dated a guy for 6 months who was divorced. He has since gone back to his wife and remarried because of his kids. We went out for a drink one night to talk since then because we both still had feelings for eachother, but nothing happened. I told him he needs to decide what is more important first and he agreed. If he wants to be in the marriage then that's where he has to be. If he loves you enough to get out of it then you wait for that. But don't be the other woman, no good will come out of it.
2007-03-08 04:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It was wrong the first time and its still wrong this time, but love is complicated. If you two cant help falling in love every time you meet up-the responsible thing to do would be to keep your distance. He went back to his wife after the first time, he chose her-so the chances are hes made his decision and he isnt going to leave this woman for you. End it now and save anymore heartache.
2007-03-08 04:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by armygirl613 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not good dear because he is not doing any fairness to you,he showed you that he is not 100% in love with you,if he loves you,he should have stayed with you and not going back to his partner,why did he chose to go to his partner instead of you,if you think he still loves you,ask him to divorce and marry you and if he says no,then leave him and find yourself a partner,u cant leave with it for the rest of your life,you are going to be worried everytime when he spents a night at his wife and you alone in bed,it is nice to have your own man.
2007-03-08 04:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by peedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this Hun but it was so wrong before and its so wrong now
if you love each other then wait till he gets a divorce and then get married and love each other why cant you just wait and not do something really bad like cheat
I'm sorry but i think cheating is one of the worst things you can do there are a few things that would be worse than cheating but not to many
and lets say you do get together in a relationship together and maybe even get married what makes you think that he wont cheat on you if he finds someone he thinks he loves to
just end it its for the best
2007-03-08 04:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. Hes messed your life up once so why would you want to give him another chance to do it again? Think of his wife and how you would feel if you were in her position. It sounds like he just wants to use you when it suits him for an ego boost and is telling you he still loves you to keep you sweet. If he really loved you it wouldnt have taken him six years to realise it and to tell you.
2007-03-08 04:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is wrong for the married guy to have an affair with you.
You can't help who you love....but in the majority of cases they will never leave the wife and will keep the bit on the side strung along.
Love hurts...but ditch him for good!
2007-03-08 10:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very wrong. If there is doubt in your mind about it that means that you too know it is wrong and you should not be doing it. I know he says he loves you but he has a wife and you can not get involved with him because of that. You need someone who can give all of themselves to you. It might be hard for you to back away but sometimes you need to listen to yourself and do what is right.
2007-03-08 05:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to either own up and acknowledge your feelings for each other in a mature and adult way or commit to being friends only.
If he went back to his wife, you should encourage him to work it out with her, he went back to her for a reason. A friend would support him in his marriage.
Sometimes you have to suck up your feelings for the greater good. Its not healthy...and with all this history between the two of you, do you think that your relationship with him would be filled with trust, commitment, and love?
You both need to do some serious soul searching. It is not fair to play around with such serious matters of the heart.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-08 04:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I´m afraid that I truly think that this relationship is a complete waste of time for you!! Why waste your time with him and demean yourself when you can go out with someone who actually respects and loves you? This man does not love, respect or admire you in any way. He is only interested in getting into your bed, and that is it. Sorry if it sounds harsh but you need to learn to respect yourself. Where is your dignity?
2007-03-08 04:21:56 · answer #11 · answered by vazza1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋