My girlfriend is indian and i love her with all my heart, she is the most amazing person in the world!!! she loves me too, but her family wont let us see each other! she was in college but her dad withdrew her because she went to the mall with me! she wants to leave so badly, but her dad wants her to go back to college, she tells me everyday how much she wants to leave but she is afraid of ruining her familys reputation, dispite the fact she is a prisoner in her own home and she is not allowed to make her own choices, she isnt allowed out of the house without her dads supervision. I just wondered if this is normal?!
2007-03-08 04:08:37 · 14 answers · asked by prince14 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Gav..what do we do? what do we do?!! :( I love you so much...and I dont wanna lose you :'(
2007-03-08 04:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are an untouchable, the lowest member or the Indian Caste System. Just kidding, lol.
Seriously though, Indians aren't a particularly strict race, there are others who are much worst. But anyway its a classic example of: Romeo and Juliet, Westside Story, Titanic, Pocahantas, etc.......Forbidden love.
The differences in culture may be why the parents frown upon their children dating outside of their race (note I'm talking about any interracial relationship here). It usually happens when people immigrate to a new country with different cultures and their children become the first generation (insert country here), the kids are culturally diffused into that new society and naturally meet some people outside of their race (although some stay with their own group).
In the end though love is what matters, respect the family, get to know their culture (its fun), and they might come to love and accept you as one of the family.
Good luck man
2007-03-08 04:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
See in Indian family when a daughter is of a marriageble age it is expected from the grooms side that she remains a virgin until she is married because in India when U have a child before marriage the society makes the life of the girls family a living hell.
this is the reason that the girls family is very strict. they dont want that she does something that will be tough for her but now a days that idea is getting shattered but still there are who still have the same age old concept.
or the other reason is that the family wants her to be married of to the man whom the family members like.
2007-03-08 05:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by geniuswithU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition and culture are very important in some families and if this man brought his family to America to succeed, then he's going to do everything in his power to make sure it happens. If you love this girl with all your heart you have to prove to him that an American man can help his daughter succeed in life, while you learn as much as you can about their traditions and culture and show him that you will not take these things from his daughter. If this is something that can seperate the 2 of you, then don't put so much time and energy into this relationship if you think it may not work!
2007-03-08 04:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie Patootie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Indian families are so strict. Because we are divided according to Religions, and sects and sub sects..
When we follow some rules that should be more restricted than others. In that scenario each religion follows and compete with other religions .
Then everyone habitualise strict life...
That makes our INDIA ... STILL A GREAT NATION...
WE FOLLOW RULES AND REGULATIONS AND ABIDE TO THEM.
BYE
2007-03-08 04:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by ♥SecRet TeLLeR♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indians have good morals and values. Reputation is very important...They must be strict beause they dont want there daughter getting knocked up and casting shame on the family/
2007-03-08 04:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First generation families generally have had a difficult time establishing themselves. They want to make sure that the children have an easier time of it, so they try to influence their direction in life. As you can imagine this leads to over protection. You'd find it in a lot of Latino families too.
2007-03-08 04:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by verbalise 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in india parents treat their grown up adult children as their kids only. they do not allow their children to take their own decision in marriages and love affair. because most of them think that their children are not matured enough. they are very much worried out of their future. as for a girl child they will be too caring. only out of their great affection towards their daughter they do this. this is really normal. they fear for their relatives and the society around them.
2007-03-08 04:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by raja varsheni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I' feel so sorry for her and you, but unfortunately, this is normal and how it is in most if not all arabic/indian households. I know becuse my friend was in love with an indian, she is black, and they were going to get married, but his family made him.. yes MADE him, marry his cousin, to get her here to the US. Sick and sad, they do this with the men as well. You and her can be together, but it will take her being disowned completely from her family. They don't play. She'll get disowned as if she were dead to them. I'm so sorry, but that is how it is.
2007-03-08 04:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Shalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see whats the problem with it cuz those indians have been mixing up with different races for over a thousand years.
2016-03-28 23:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal in many 3rd world nations where women have
no rights and are regarded as a mans property.
2007-03-08 04:11:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋