My mother said that I was an accident and that she never wanted to me what do I do?

Answer 1

tell her she should have kept her legs closed then.

Answer 2

Did you ask her if she really meant it? That is very sad to hear, and that must of really hurt you. Just remember it is about her not you. She must have some issues or troubles coping with the responsibility of having you. It is a hard job and it takes a special person to accomplish it. I think not all of us women are cut out to be mothers. I think some have it, some don't. I am a single mom, recently divorced with 3 kids. It takes a lot of energy. All I can say is that you have not done anything wrong. It is about her. I would try going to talk somebody about it, a friend, another parent, your pastor/priest, or a professional. You need to sort this out to the point that you can sit back and say " I tried and gave the best my soul could give." Tell her how it made you feel and that you are sad she feels that way, but you deserve more from her. She is your mother and it is her job to raise you in a loving environment. Maybe she should take the "Love and Logic" parenting class. It is an awesome class. It is 7 weeks long. I would suggest this to her, and I think she should go to counseling also. It will be good for everybody. You can go together or seperatley. Just make the right decision for you and no one else. You deserve to be happy. Hang in there. God is on both your sides.

Answer 3

Your mother is a sick woman to say something like that to you.
The danger you are in is that you will seek out love by letting boys have sex with you just so you will feel loved. Boys like sex but to them it has nothing to do with love.
I suggest you concentrate on getting a good education so you can get a good job and have a decent future.
Through your life many people will love you but because your mother is so cruel you may want to give your heart easily which could set you up for many heartbreaks. So figure out who your real friends are and stick with them. Realize love can come from many places and that you arent alone.
I dont know why your mother said that to you but myself I dont beleive in those kinds of accidents and that you are here for a reason. So even if she thinks that, dont you believe her. Many people will be glad you are here throughout your life. Look for positive people to have in your life and stay away from the negative.

Answer 4

A lot of people are accidents. The question you need the answer to is, does my mother love me now?

Answer 5

Yah I understand. My mother once said that condoms don't work and that I was living proof of it. She also told me that my father (whom I didn't know till I was 18) didn't want me and told her to get an abortion. These type of verbal abuses occurred over a span of about 13 years.

Let me tell ya...IT HURT...and I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. I eventually understood that those were my mother's problems and not mine.

One day if you feel that you want to confront her and tell her how those things made you feel then do it. Just know that no matter what she says, she can't justify it and it isn't your fault in any way.

Answer 6

I am sorry, that was not very nice for her to say. I do not believe in accidents but I think you were a surprise instead.
Try not to take what she said to heart as sometimes people say things when they are angry that they really don't mean.

Answer 7

My mom told all of us that our whole lives, told us how much she hated us and wished we were never born, and that she should just give us up for adoption.

If your mother told you this one time, just tell her it's bothering you, ask her if she loves you, and is glad she had you. She might have been going through PMS, was in a bad mood, or just mad at you and I bet she didn't know you would take it so hard. I'm sure she loves you very much and is happy every day that she had you.

Answer 8

what an evil woman to of said that.... im sad for you... but all you can do is just live life do ur very best and know God loves you... you need to tell ur mother it really hurt ur feelings that she said that... hopefully.. she regrets it and apologizes... dont repeat history and get upset one day when you have kids and say such things ...u learn from it and know how hurtful it is and neverrr do that to ur own kids... it will make u a better person in a long run because u will be a better parent to ur child...

Answer 9

There are to kinds of accidents, Blessed ones and forgotrn ones.
If she did not want you she would have given you up to an orphanage. But i would be shocked to find out that i was an accident child.

Answer 10

how old are you and even if you were to her knowledge an accident that was mean for her to say that but that is your mother and you love her regardless she will get what she deserves. Everything that you do wrong to others comes back on you but worst so she will get hers. whatever happens just keep your head up and focus on whats right

Answer 11

Was your mom in a bad mood at the time? Or maybe she was drunk. It's a posibility. My mom tends to say the worst things to my siblings and I. Your mom probably didn't mean it but if your sure she did, talk to a close friend, or better yet, talk to your mom. Tell her that what she said really hurt you. If your mom doesn't say she is sorry, tell her, "If you didn't want me, why didn't you tell dad to get a condom!" Trust me she'll slowly but surely start to regret her words.
Best of luck.