please help 10 points for first good answer G/F trouble?

Question

right the thing is i went out with this girl for 3 months about a year ago and i finished her and since then ive always wanted her back and have been turned down various times. and now ive been going out with a different girl for 5 months and i still love my first g/f if (if that makes since) and i dont want to hurt my current g/f so.... any advice given would be appreciated thnx for reading this

Answer 1

You are going to have to get over it, your 1st don't want you anymore, the 1st is always the hardest to get over, but you are only going to hurt yourself more if you cant move on.

Answer 2

First off, you are obsessing. It is time to move on. She has let you know on "various times" that she does not want a relationship with you. Let it go and move on.

You are not going to be able to do that until you set your mind to do it. That means not trying to figure out how to get her back because even if you figure some way to do it, it will not work.

As to your current girlfriend, it would probably be best for both of you to part ways. It may hurt her but the fact you really are not interested in her will hurt her more if you keep this up. Take a break from relationships for a while. Honest it wont hurt you. You need the space to sort your heart out.

Hopefully, this will help. Good luck.

Answer 3

The easiest thing to do is to get over her! The thing is, she probably doesn't want to get back with you...she keeps turning you down. I'd say she is over you. But, the question is, what to do with the current g/f?

Honestly, you need to ask yourself a few questions... Is the first g/f really that great, or do you have her on a pedestal? Are you really in love with the newness of relationships? The start of relationships are always fun with tingly feelings and romance. Some of that dies out as you are in a relationship long term.

Lastly, ask yourself about the current g/f. Is it her you want? or do you really just want to be in a relationship? Do you need a break? Is there something you can do to reignite the fun and newness of that relationship? Is she just convenient? Do you really want to stay with her?

Honestly, the worst thing you could do is stay with her because you don't want to hurt her. Eventually, you will leave and hurt her anyway....but it will be far more messy.

Good luck!

Answer 4

If you've tried to work it out with the other girlfriend, and been shot down, then you've done all you can do. You've been going out with this new girl for 5 months, but you weren't ready to move on. I think you should have waited a few months more before starting another relationship when you weren't ready to let the first one go.

Now you are with someone who must care about you, since you have been together for 5 months, and you still have feelings for someone else. I think the best thing to do is to move on, allow yourself to be happy with the girlfriend you have, and stop torturing yourself over someone who either doesn't feel the same about you, or doesn't realize that she does.

In the end, either she will come crawling back to you, or you'll be happy with your current relationship.

good luck!

Answer 5

People come into your life for a reason

People come into your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When
Someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
you have expressed. They have come to assist you threw a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be, then without any
wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will
say
or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they
die
sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a
stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered
and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
Come
to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make
you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They
usually give you and unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real.
But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must
Build
Upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to
accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use
in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Answer 6

If the first girl won't take you back and you don't want to hurt the girl you are with, why are you even worrying about it? You only dated the first girl for three months and it was an entire year ago! I think you really need to get over her and then maybe find someone you can be happy with that will be happy to be with you, whether this is your current gf or not...

Answer 7

Forget about the 1st girlfriend because it is SO obvious she is not interested in you. She already turned you down various times, and probably is with a b/f that she is happy with.

You have a g/f that likes you, why hurt her by something that goes back to over a year. You know how it feels to be hurt, why hurt her? Give her a chance.

Answer 8

I say forget about the 3 month girl and move on. You say you've been turned down various times - take the hint. I believe that you love her but obviously the feeling isn't mutual. There are other fish in the sea.

Answer 9

Just know this John that you can't continue suffering in silence I feel it takes two to love each other, so if you really love your first g/f and don't love the other I feel you should speak up and I believe your current g/f would be reasonable enough to understand your feelings, infact you could still be close friends.

Answer 10

sadly the best option is to get on with your life if your previous g/f is not in love with you and does not want to be with you then you have to accept that.

However you obviously are not happy with your current g/f or she would mean more to you and would be enough, so the nicest option would be to say your sorry and call it a day.

you will meet someone who will make you happy and be the right person for you, but it is obvious that neither one of these girls are, and it will be hard to cut them off but it is the most humane thing to do for both your g/f sake and your sake being hurt over your ex.

i hope it works out. good luck

Answer 11

My first advice to you John is please use the spell check feature in the future. You need to move on, she has turned you down several times, she doesn't want you. It does not matter how much you love her if she does not feel the same way. Lastly, it is unfair to your current girlfriend to harbour these feelings, even if you're not acting on them. Get some closure and love your current girlfriend with all your heart, assuming that you even love her. I am only telling you what is best, so forgive my harsh undertones.