Ok, I am somebody who's a lot of free time on their hands so I like to talk to people on the phone/email/IM a lot (and I mean a lot). But countless times people have labeled me a stalker or something because I'd want to talk to them soo often. For instance, when I met this one girl, we start dating for a week or so, and then I had tried to "move things too fast" (apparently people shouldn't kiss yet on the second date). Well, after she said that I was moving things too fast, I tried to call her to apologize, didn't answer. so I figured she was busy and I tried calling back a few hours later, no answer. I had called her about 4 times that day before I gave up, then to repeat the same thing the next day. I wanted to resolve this, so I found her facebook profile and saw her AIM adress on there, I started IMing her. I IMed her a few times and got no response. I IMed her again the next day, and the next, until finally I got a response. She called me a stalker. Am I a stalker?
2007-03-08 03:53:15 · 10 answers · asked by IceCreamOverlord 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, a little more about this: No, I am not still dating her, we only went on two dates, then it was over. But in-between those2 dates she would let me talk on the phone to her for 2 hour times almost every night,Anyways, this has happened with one other girl too (the one just before her). The thing that happened with the other girl (we will call her girl #1)is on the first date we were at the movie theaters and one thing I enjoy at a movie theater is cuddling with a girl, (almost like a child with a teddy bear), so I started cuddling with her about 25 mins into the movie, and hardly let go of her all throughout. Then about 2/3 of the way through the movie, I had went in for a kiss, gave her a french kiss, and she seemed to enjoy it at the time, but later on when I asked about a second date she agreed to it,but promptly ignored me when I tried and tried and tried to call about detailsSheWentOnABlindDate2DaysL8r. I pursuedGettingDa2ndDateButShePromptly
IgnoredMeEverytime.IsThisObsessive?
2007-03-08 04:22:59 · update #1
Oh and girl #1 never called me a stalker, but she seemed to have the same attitude and wanted nothing to do with me.
2007-03-08 04:25:47 · update #2
Dude do you have abandonment issues you went on two dates and your blowing up her phone and trying to find her on IM. your not a stalker you sound like one of those people that need to be around people one way or another. and when you have an issue you have to get to the bottom of it immediatly.
Not everyone is like that, she might have been and alright girl but it sounds like you put to much weight on a new relationship. i was guilty of that in my younger days.
my advice just ease up on chicks you might even find one just like you.
relax and don't allow your self to fall in the stalker stereotype.
hope all is well in the end.
2007-03-08 05:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by vintagegamerz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kissing on the 2nd date is not moving too fast! Most people kiss on the first date, don't think your moving too fast. Even though she said you were moving things too fast, I think she probally just wasn't interested in you and she just handed you an excuse. If she really liked you she would be wanting to talk to you even if you moved to fast, that happens all the time girls are use to it, her ignoring you is a sign she is not romantically interested in you. She called you a stalker because she already communicated to you nonverbally that you were not her type and she is trying to get you to leave her alone.
2007-03-08 04:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like your one to me. You need to know when a girl doesn't call, IM, or e-mail yuou back after a couple of times, move on and leave her be. If not one of these days not only will she call you a stalker but will get the cops on you. You might not think your doing nothing wrong but you are. From now on if a girl doesn't call , IM me , e-mail you back after you ahve send them a couple of messages just forget her and move on. It is better to move on than what might happen.
2007-03-08 04:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A stalker? No, but you do appear to be the clingy type, and most girls are turned off by that. Try to give people a little breathing room and they'll start calling you. Good luck.
2007-03-08 04:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is stalking, You made contact with her when she ready she will contact you back. Once you know she got the message directly then she has to decide wether to call you.
The next step will be prevention order against you.
If you have so much free time get a job or study more or do charity work get a life.
2007-03-08 04:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to let things go! Just because you sense an issue needs to be resolved, doesn't mean the other person does. I wouldn't call you a stalker, just annoyingly persistent.
2007-03-08 03:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course ur not a stalker. you just wanted to clear thing up with her . you just wanted to know where u went wrong so u wouldn't do it again
2007-03-08 04:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Narissa J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not a stalker
2007-03-08 03:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by skatergirl3722 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just acting desparate
2007-03-08 04:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no ur not
2007-03-08 03:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Fr3e@K3D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋