I told my fiance not to spend more then $200 on my engagement ring and he didn't. Now I'm wanting to get something that I REALLY like. I love this ring, but it's yellow gold and I'm not a yellow gold person. He tried to find a white gold one at the time, but couldn't. He told me that I could get a new one(and I agreed to pay for it), but I feel guilty. I always said I didn't understand why girls did that and that I never would do it. Should I just keep this one and get a wedding band that I really like or should I go get a new engagement ring?
2007-03-08 03:52:28 · 19 answers · asked by marie_fairfax 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not a material person. Did I say I wanted something bigger? I just wanted to know if I should wear something I Love 100% or if I should wait and get the wedding band of my dreams.
2007-03-08 06:36:49 · update #1
Most jewelers can make your ring white gold. Just go in and ask them about getting it "dipped" to white gold. White gold is only yellow gold with a coating on it. I'm not sure how they do it, if they can do it, or how expensive it would be, but I'm sure it's worth asking. Especially if you really loce your ring that you have now, just not the color.
2007-03-08 04:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always switch out the band and keep the setting the same. It would essentially be the same ring just a different color. I am no jeweler, but I can't imagine this being too expensive; you are just changing the color not the grade or quality. I don't think white gold is any more than "gold gold."
My mother told me when I went shopping for my wedding ring that I should get something I REALLY like, not just what I can afford. Your engagement ring you can upgrade whenever, in a few years or right after your wedding. Your wedding ring is a bit more permanent (though many people upgrade that, too).
Best of luck, and congratulations!
2007-03-08 04:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible to return the ring that he bought?
I don't think there's anything wrong with getting a different engagement ring. You should wear something that you really love, not something you're settling for.
I ended up buying a claddagh ring as my wedding ring, but since it can also be an engagement ring, I've been wearing it before the wedding in place of my old engagement ring. I love the claddagh ring (probably a little too much). It's 14k gold, no stones, and I think it fits my personality perfectly.
If you don't get a different ring, you'll always feel like you're missing something. Your fiancee gave you the okay, so either return the engagement ring that he gave you or save it. Maybe you could create a scrapbook page and place the ring on that, or you could buy a frame and create a "picture" of your love by including the engagement ring. That way, the original ring won't get banged up and your children will be able to see it.
Here's a shadowbox from Target: http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_1/601-2254725-5869727?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B000FULGAS
2007-03-08 12:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is cool with it, like it doesn't hurt his feelings etc, then go for it. You have to wear it on your finger for the rest of your life, so why not make sure it's something you BOTH love?
Plus you said maybe you should wait to get a wedding band you like, but you said you don't like yellow gold, and if you get white gold it will clash really bad with the yellow gold engagement ring.
2007-03-08 04:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Keiko K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just wait and get the wedding band you want. I never understood why people changed engagement rings either...there is only 1 ring that you got engaged with! Thats why I made sure he picked the right one the first time. It was a little out of our budget, but I love it and dont want or need to "upgrade" it later.
2007-03-09 00:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you get that one dipped in white gold? Would you like it more then? I would get a wedding band you really like and keep the engagement ring. I think years down the road you will be really appreciative that you kept it and if you still want one down the road, you guys can upgrade or something.
2007-03-08 10:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rings are not that important when all things are considered. He gave you that ring. It comes from him. You can influence the choice of wedding bands.
Perhaps you should wait for a bigger ring on your 10th anniversary or after the birth of your first child. Then be more specific on just what kind of ring you want.
There was a time if you had a small, thin wedding band you were lucky. Be thankful for what you have and look forward to that anniversary ring!
2007-03-08 05:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by NewGrandma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is way to short to be wearing a ring that you do not like!
Why keep it and feel bad about it every time you put it on?
Maybe if you take it to a jeweler he can put a White gold mounting on the ring and you will still have your "engagement ring" with all of the attached sentiment that went along with it when you got it.
2007-03-08 04:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for your wedding and get a nice ring then. Your engagement ring is something you should save for sentimental reasons, but if you don't like it, get something different for your wedding.
2007-03-08 03:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep your ring, and when you have been married for 5 years upgrade to a better one, but save the first ring. he worked hard to pick out that ring.
2007-03-08 04:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by questions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋