I'm trying to toilet train my 4yr old daughter over night, please help.?

Question

I have a son who is 1yr in june, also I'm expecting again end of June. I thought I'd try to train my daughter before the new baby is born otherwise it's just going to be left. She has had 4 dry nights in over 2 weeks, and I'm really tired. I get up twice a night to take her to the toilet, I would be greatful of any suggestions.

Answer 1

I can't believe people are being so critical - it's not helpful and if everyone read the posting properly they'd see it was about night-time wetting and not potty training throughout the day.
And even if it was, who are you to say she should have been potty trained well before now?? Each child is different, they do it when they're ready in my experience.
My 4 yr old little girl has been dry in the day for a couple of years now but still wets every night. She has water with her tea (which is a couple of hours before bedtime), she goes for a wee just before bed, I lift her a few hours later before I go to bed, she wears a pull-up but is always wet in the morning.
Putting her favourite pants on her (Dora the Explorer!) is a good idea, I might try that tomorrow night!

Answer 2

Your daughter may be taking a little longer to toilet train due to the fact that you have another child that is still in nappies. With both my children, I found that they were dry throughout the day long before they were dry at night. I dont believe in waking the child up to take to the bathroom during the night as neither of you are getting rested sleep. Try making her feel like she is a really big girl when she has a dry night, give her plenty of praise and really over emphasis how pleased you are with her. You could even try incorporating a chart, which she can put stickers or smiley faces on for the nights she is dry, and if she goes all week then treat her to something. It is difficult but dont give up

Answer 3

Although I would say as a rule girls tend to be dry before boys, do not rush it or pressurise her, it will end up taking even longer. My daughter was dry day and night by 18mths but my son is 9 and still regulalry wet at night. it will happen in their own time.
Do not cut out fluids in the day time, again this can make matters worse as the bladder will not mature properly and will not reconise the feeling of being full and 'needing' to go.
Sometimes the arrival of a younger sibling can make the older child regress as well, as they want to be a baby again and get the same amount of attention that a newborn obviously needs. Your daughter may begin to have more accidents as a result of this.
My advice would be, don't stress yourself, buy some pull up pants/pj pants and see how your daughter is. Depending on how much she undertands about begin a big sister, you could talk about how she is such a big girl, but be careful as again she may not want to be a big girl yet - again may begin acting younger when baby arrives.
A star chart may also help, even in conjunction with pull up pants as little ones love getting a sticker for a dry night. It will all depend on your daughters understanding and if she is physically ready to be dry.

Answer 4

Quite frankly, a 4-year old should have been potty trained a long time ago. Especially a girl, because they learn a little faster than boys. Stop giving her liquids about 2 hours before bedtime, and none at all during the night. It might be a struggle if she is used to having a drink at night, but it's the best way. Also, make sure she goes potty before bed. Even if she has to sit on the toilet for 5 minutes before anything comes out. Be consistent, that's the key. She will learn from repetition and consistency.

Answer 5

if you are talking about day time training, why was she not trained a long time ago. if you are talking about night time training that is a diffrent story. lots of kids wet the bed. it is not a training isue at all because they cannot help it.
I can also say that withholding drinks, waking up in the night, medication, and the whole list of crazy things that people on this site suggest do not work. medication for bed wetting has some nasty side effects that are worse than the bed wetting (IE. vomiting, dehydration, ect...) and when you wake them up in the night they only loose sleep which makes them do worse in school, and sometimes makes the bed wetting worse. you can try counseling, but that has a very low rate of sucess.

the best solution is to wear goodnites to bed. these keep the mess down and are a very good way to handle the problem. give him time, and she will out grow it. ether she will get used to the stress and it will go away, or the stress will go away and the wetting with it. he will out grow it one way or another.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Don't let her have anything to drink before bed.
And this is what worked with my three year old....
I "forgot" to put her pull up on before bed. (In other words, I didn't say anything about it or make a big deal about anything)
She didn't seem to notice either. She woke up in the morning clean and dry and went straight to the potty. Might I also tell you, prior to this she was waking up with poopy and wet pull ups! So it was pretty disgusting every morning. She would always wear underwear during the day and be fine, but she would "drop her load" as soon as she got her pull up on for bed.
Sometimes if you don't make a big deal about something, it's easier for the kids to achieve it. It takes away the pressure to do it. She still has an accident from time to time but I never expected her to be perfect about it at her age. I just can't believe it was that easy all along with everything I had already tried in the past!

Answer 8

if she likes to wear panties go to the store and let her pick out her panties. when you get home tell her if she gets them wet you will have to get rid of them because they are yuky now and if she choses a charecter tell her that charecter doesnt like to be wet. dont let her drink anything about an hour before bedtime at least till she becomes completely potty trained. make her use the potty right before bed dont get up twice in the night or shell be expecting you every night. when she wakes up in the morning if she dry give her lots of praise. and make a sticker board gets lots of different stickers for her to choose from and everytime she dry she gets to put one on the board. and you can tel her she has to stay dry so she teach her sibilings how to stay dry. good luck

Answer 9

I've tried every thing with my 4 year old to get her to stay dry at night. Nothing seems to work! I wouldn't worry about it until she is over the age of 6. Give yourself a break and put her in overnight pants. She will come around when she is ready.

Answer 10

i know my sister was having trouble training her daugter as well and she has just turned 4. If you limit her fluid intake from around teatime and give her one small glass of milk or water before bed then make sure she goes to the toilet 2 times b4 she goes to bed she should be fine but it is a case of trial and error you need to do the above for a few days or weeks and move the time she has a drink down and down till you know the last time of the night to gi ve her a drink b4 bed.

it wil work you just have to persivere with it
good luck hun....