My boyfriend and I have been together four almost fou years now and living together for two. Just last week things all went down hill. He said that our relatioship just wasn't the same. He still loves me but he's not happy...he said he needed a break, feels like he needs change....so he's staying at his sisters now....and he;s got 1 week to figure out what he wants....I've been talkign to his sister and she said that he said it's very different living without me, but he feels like it just right for now....apparently he was seriously considering asking me to marry him and I think he might have scared himself...I just can't stop asking if he'll come back to me....what should I do? Do I just give him his space?
2007-03-08 03:49:44 · 6 answers · asked by wilsonfromthefrew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to me carefully. A "break" is a precursor that leads to a break-up. When a man says he wants space, it means he is seriously considering ending the relationship. If he was going to ask you to marry him - living together should have brought you closer, not push you farther apart. And being "scared" is just an excuse. Why is it that we are so willing to justify a man being able to identify a feeling - women do that all day long. But we are supposed to give men a gold star for "feeling". Now, it could very well be that he needed to step back, get a look at what his life would be without you, but think about this...if he comes back and you get engaged or even married...what are you going to do if he gets "scared" again and wants another break? What I suggest is you stand your ground and give him a week and only a week to decide what he wants to do. You have a stake in this too, it's your life that's being put on hold while he "breaks". If he's not come to a substantial decision one way or another by then, you had better make some decisions of your own. If you don't take the hard road, you'll send the message that it's okay for him to "break" whenever he gets the notion and this situation will simply keep repeating itself. Good luck.
2007-03-08 03:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say you should let him know how you feel, but at the same time make such you don't smother him. for example i still have strong feelings for you and i understand you do need space. i hope that you make a decision from the heart .
hope i help some... it'll work out for you girl, just takes time where the most struggle is, and with your one week maybe be lenient but (being a guy) be strong, don't go back if theres a slip in his honesty, once a cheater always one
2007-03-08 04:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by anothercurious1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space, give him time. if he really loves you, he'll come back in time. really. my man and i have been wit each other for goin on 9yrs. we just celebrate our 1yr anniversary last weekend. wanna now how many times he needed space? 4-5 times during our realationship. but can YOU wait for him? that's what you need to ask ya self. don't worry bout him girl. concentrate on you. make him miss ya. go out a lil more. talk to a lil more people, don't pay him any mind and no sex! he'll be yours forever!
2007-03-08 03:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by POETIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I say give him his space....He is the one that wanted the break...If you really care for him then you would let him have this time...It sounds like it wont be long before he will be back to you...But meanwhile you dont want to act as if you can not function without him....Good Luck
2007-03-08 03:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to shop around.
see if there is someone better while he plays with his self.
2007-03-08 03:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
space is good right now!
2007-03-08 03:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋