I met this guy and I thought he would be a friend with benefits (single adults with careers and kids need that!) and thought he would be abit of a jerk. He turned out to be really sweet so far and I am really mad at myself for liking him.
I have no idea what he thinks of me (as far as sex or relationsihp, but I know he likes me well enough), but I am tempted to just never see him again. I am SO mad that I like him. Geez, I am to old for this crap, and can't get hurt again.
Is this a normal reaction?
2007-03-08 03:41:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah of course it is. you can't control your feelings and that's frustrating to you. you didn't expect this and didn't ask for it and now you're scared of getting hurt. you feel powerless, which is a difficult emotion to cope with so the mind displaces it with anger.
advice - talk to him. let him know how you feel then give him space to figure out how to react. from what you say he doesn't seem the kind to mess you around.
2007-03-08 03:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's normal, but I have gone through the same thing. You think it's going to be real easy to just have that type of friends with benefits relationship, but it doesn't seem to work out that way. Then you end up mad at yourself for letting yourself begin to like them. And the nicer they are the harder it becomes for you. I think it comes with being older too, tired of getting hurt and begin to expect it so don't really wanna let yourself fall for someone because you are happy where you are. So, all I can say is, you are not alone in that. But not sure how normal it is. Since I am the first answering, I guess you'll see when you get other answers. If there are alot of us, maybe we are normal.
2007-03-08 11:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is a normal reaction. Those relationships usually end up with one person falling for the other and being hurt when it is n't returned.
I went through almost the same thing. I fell for him and he didn't quite return the feelings. I do not have the courage or strength to stop seeing him as you suggest you may do. Let me tell you if you don't stop you may end up like me, hurt and constantly wondering if this time will be the last time you see him or if you get one more day before he breaks your heart. Rather pathetic and painful....trust me on that.
I hate myself for liking him but it doesn't change the fact that I do. Try not to hate yourself, just get out before it is too late.
2007-03-08 11:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i know how you feel. I'm experiencing that right now.He's a really sweet guy but sometimes he acts so oblivious to the feelings and moments that we've shared I wonder why i'm still bothering with him. But I prefer so much to have him as a friend than not have him in my life at all.
2007-03-08 11:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Narissa J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so scared? If you say he's sweet then i doubt he's the type to purposefully hurt you. Take a risk- u never kno how much good could come of it, but some always will.
2007-03-08 11:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mistclears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it totally makes sense yknw???? I got pissed off when I fell 4 a guy so it totally makes sense 2 me. But now I'm mates with the guy & guess how thats making me feel right now hehehe AARRRRGGGGHHH!!!! But yknw Im just going with the flow as usual.
2007-03-08 11:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps u went into this for all of the wrong reasons, expecting not to like him, u have some unresolved grief u need to work on, your afraid of falling for him, and getting your heart broken. but to find love we do have to meet others, and we will fall in love with some of them from time to time. u have to open yourself up in order to find love, even if it means we get hurt. don't allow your hurt to define your future with others. don't focus on your past hurts or u could miss the one your suppose to be with. just select wisely, make better decisions, and if it isn't working for u, and u see hurt coming, get out of it before it happens to u.
2007-03-08 11:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i get really annoyed with myself when i like people and i know il just end up upset lol. atleast you realise that its a bad idea to like him. i think the only way to get over an unwanted crush is to thow urself into likeing someone else, and whenever you think about the bad one, make yourself think about the good one. good luck!
p.s. i dont really get your situation, is it really that bad to like him? are you already sleeping with him? if you really like him, consider the consequences of a relationship with him, if its bad, then stop having sex with him, itl make it so much harder for you. if its ok, then continue if you want to, itl make the sex better (i think) and it could grow into more
2007-03-08 11:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by bojanglestothemax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am doing it now!
2007-03-08 11:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by skatergirl3722 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋