Please help me?

Question

okay this question is about my family. I am going to try to make a long story short. My dad has always had alot of money. My parents got a divorce.During the divorce i was put in the middle of it. My mom would not let me go live or even go see my dad. My dad made up rumors about my mom. They would throw words to each other that my brother and i susposely said, but they just did that to hurt one another. I remember on school night i would stay at my dad's house with him and my mom fighting untill 2 am and then turn around and had to go to school. So my question is are parents always right? i am n ow 18 years old. I do not have a good relationship with my father or his new family bcuz my mother freaks out. She blows up at me, and i think she takes **** out on me. Her and her new husband or gettting a divorce. She makes me cry every day. I have had enough of it. I am a and b average student.I dropped out and got my GED just to move out. am i wrong? i could not go it anymore.

She will yell at me and then come back all through the night and she will never stop. I caught her cheating on my step dad, and she kept me up all night because she wanted me to delete her yahoo of the computer and i would not do it for me. She plays these mind games with me. like this.. i went out and bought a truck for 22,000 and she got a brand new one. I drove a paid off altima. and we split 4grand with each other, but then what was left on her car went on my note? it makes me so mad that she lies to me and thinks i don't know what is going on. My brother went to private school so he is like the family hero, but she failed out of college and is in jail!!!!! she still wants him to love her, bcuz he truly hates her. I can not live like this. Her always yelling at me for **** i can't change. I feel like i ruined my life, but i still am going to college. I just could not do it with her!! so my question is.. should i trust my mom again ?

Answer 1

First off, I want to say I'm sorry that your parents are putting you through all of this. This is something a 18 year old shouldn't have to deal with. I would save up money and move out of that situation. If you have friends that live on their own see if you can move in with them for right now. Call and talk to your father. Set up a time and date for you and him to spend some time together and catch up on things. I think that you should get your mom some help, have her talk to a shrink about what's been happening. In your situation, both your parents are in the wrong. They should've never put you in the middle of their problems. I hope that everything works out for you, good luck.

Answer 2

Well I see most of your frustration is with your mom. She yells at you a lot but don't you think it's like how she releases her stress? Yeah it's wrong but think of what it's like being in her place. The fact that she cheats shows that she's already desperate for any kind of love she could get.

Hang in there coz your mother needs you as unbearable as she is at times. Just listen to what she's saying, it's like a friend ranting it out to you only this time it's your mother.

It was really wrong of your dad to make those rumors and maybe that is a reason she keeps you away from him, If she didn't care about you she'd just give you up or just let you lead your life in whatever way right?

She doesn't want you to go through what she's going through now and that's why she's pushing you hard. if you need to talk on this im available all the time, just send me a message.:)

Answer 3

You have not ruined your life, and it seems that you have a pretty good head on your shoulders, but you have learned that you can not trust your mom. It would be stupid to trust your mom again. She is like a child, who can not take care of herself. You have to stop trying to change her. Realize that no matter what you do, she is the only one who can change herself, and that most likely will not happen. YOU have to take care of YOU. Move on with your life - tell her "mom I care about you, but I can not help you." Dont get involved in her tantrums anymore - she enjoys getting you emotionally wound up. Read the book "Boundaries", by Henry Cloud.

Answer 4

absolutely not, she is a low life and a deceving scoundrel, but you see her as someone you can trust? is that wise judgement? i have seen mothers destroy the lives of their own children. get away from her now, get away no matter where you have to live, do not give her your address. The only thing she cares about is controlling others, and no man would put up with it, your brother was smart to go away. and save himself the grief. she sounds like a maniac, she will continue to bring you harm as long as you tolerate it, please trust me, she will never change. go away and live--your hapiness will never come from her. Do not give this person one more sleep less night. She is jealous of your youth and your future.