How can I help my girlfriend with her Bulimia?

Question

Any useful advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Answer 1

Hi,
some people on here are so ignorant and immature.
Look I suffer from bulimia and only when you do, do you know what it's like...it's funny because people who drink are putting drugs into their body and doing it damage yet arent judged the same way, or people that smoke.

If your girlfriend has confided in you about it then perhaps discussing it is an option, but don't judge her and give off, it will just make her seem worse. Tell her you love her and are worried about her, that you understand how difficult it is for her to confide in you but you'll be there. She needs to see a Gp and possibily get refered to counselling because there is probably emotional reasons behind it...you can't solve it for her, but just encourage her to do whats best for herself, without forcing her into anything, because that way you will loose her trust. Tell her you will even go with her to see the doctor etc. Most bulimics keep it a secret, once it's out it is terrifying but if they confide in someone, it can be a cry for help.

try looking at www.b-eat.co.uk

good luck to her

Answer 2

I suffered with both anorexia and bulimia.

The first thing you should know is that is isn't about weight, very rarely. The sufferer (me included) will usually believe that it is about their weight, but it is usually an outlet for something else. (with me it was not being in control of my own life during my A levels) Any outside problems or insecurities you can address would be most helpful and will probably impact positively on her bulimia.

Also, don't try to stop her when she is bingeing/purging because this might make her start doing it secretly instead and that is far worse.

Keep telling her that she is perfect as she is. You'll probably get a lot of nasty responses but it is important that someone says it.

If you can get her to get help, that's great. But you can't try and force help onto someone, they'll resist it.

Otherwise, good luck! Your girlfriend is lucky to have someone as supportive as you willing to help her.

Answer 3

Just try and find out whats causing this. Is it because she fells fat? Depressed? Lonley? there are many things which cause this some people dont it cause they feel down and they dont have anyone to talk to. They do it to make thereself feel better its also like emptying out your problems you feel better after you have done this. If its cause she feels fat then give her compliments or say instead of making yourself ill tell her you'll go to the gym with her go for walks together etc.

It may also help if you find a good website and print off the problems that this can have on her long terms health this may scare her into thinking about things before she does it.

Good luck

Answer 4

A combo of very supportive statements with very firm limits about what you can put up with is a good idea. If you live in a large city, there is usually a couple's group therapy group-- which would be great. One thing I would insist on is her signing a release of information so that her doctor can talk with you.

Answer 5

Try discussing the problem with her, is she ready for help or is she denying the problem? Search on the net for any local support groups for eating disorders as well as getting her to see her GP for medical/psychological help.

Answer 6

go to counselling together. or dump her *** and tell her to deal with the world and stop being so pathetic.

Answer 7

Force her to eat cheese and pork....or you can take her to a rehab...Good luck

Answer 8

chocolate - wang.