First she dug into a pan of brownies that I just baked for him. Then after I mixed up another cake and put it in the oven, I left to take the bro to school, and she was instructed to check it when the timer went off to be sure it was done, then take it out. She took it out, but the middle was obviously still batter. She bakes all the time, so should have known it wasn't done. Now I have to bake a 3rd dessert because she ruined the first 2. I am SO MAD at her! She is mean to her brother all the time. Serious advice only please.
2007-03-08 03:29:48 · 20 answers · asked by bagoftwix 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She will take her own money, buy the ingredients for the two she ruined and a third for replacement. She will bake all three of them. If you do not need that many, take 2 to a homeless shelter. Maybe she can volenteer at the shelter to help her understand that what she did was not only mean but wasteful. Of course she owes her brother and you an appology. Take something prescious away from her, the phone, the mall, etc until you hear the appologies.
2007-03-08 05:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like we have some serious issues regarding their relationship. I would suggest trying to get at the bottom of why she did what she did. This is not to rule out punishment. But you need to find out why their is so much envy and anger between the two. As to punishment, paying for the ruined batches of brownies and having to make the needed brownies for his class. You also need to clearly explain that in destroying the brownies she hurt people other than her brother as well.
You may need to see some family counselling on the overall problem. Get it now or their future relationship could be put at risk.
2007-03-08 03:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by cnc_13023 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ground her I guess. I mean she is a little old for a spanking but I am sure taking away her favorite thing like the phone or the TV or a game would be upsetting to her.
I would say 2 weeks..one for each dessert she ruined. Also, make sure you sit her down and talk to her about what she did. Let her know that she needs to start treating her brother better and try to find a reason they aren't getting along.
2007-03-08 03:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be firm and take away some privileges; No phone, cell, computer, Internet, TV or money until she behave. Of course don't over do, one month or two for every offence will be enough to send the message. But once you choose a punishment don't be weak and step back like many parents do. Kids know parents sometime feels guilty about long term punishment and they take advantage of it. So be strong an let her know that every wrong doing from her will have a punishment.
2007-03-08 03:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ground her. Take something away that she cares about. I would punish her for the brownies but the cake she may not have done that on purpose. I am not sure that she should have been left alone at this age in the first place. Fighting is normal between siblings in families, they will grow out of it.
2007-03-08 03:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe , punishment at this time is not the answer. you say she is mad at her brother all the time and it does seem like she didnt care about the cakes. so maybe you need to address the reason she so dislikes her brother.
you see you could raise a daughter that does what you say when you say it and you dont have to worry about because she knows she will get it if she does not do what you say .
or you can raise a girl that loves her brother and does things for him and others because she has no hate in her.
i think i would hope for choice number 2.
2007-03-08 03:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If the child were disciplined to begin with there would be no need for punishment. While I don't know what event this "desert" was needed for I do know that her actions isn't going to cause the world to come to an end. Sounds to me like a case of normal sibling rivalry. The second desert wasn't HER fault. YOU instructed her to take the cake out when the time went off, she did so. SHE didn't ruin the 2nd desert...obviosuly whomever put it into the oven did that by not setting the temprature of the oven correctly in order for the cake to bake full through. So you have to make something else...
2007-03-08 03:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
She should have to make the next replacement dessert herself and be banned from all other baking for a month.
2007-03-08 07:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ground her for the rest of the school year. No dessert for 3 weeks also.
2007-03-08 04:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she is trying to get attention. Do you do the same treatment to her if she needs stuff made. Almost like she is jealous of her brother. If that is not the case, and she did it just to be mean to her brother, than I would take all the fun things alway from her for a period of time, cell phones, computers, T.V.'s in her room, radios. I have found the worst thing to do, is leave the stuff in their room, but just take the cords, so they don't work. That way they have to look at them, but can't use them.
2007-03-08 03:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by blebert2002 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋