Ive been with this girl for almost 4Years now. She can cheat on me at anytime and say she didn't mean to hurt. But i still LOVE her so much and i dont want to hurt her by going with another girl. A couple of time, she tried to leave me but came back one week after. She said she reali love me and i am her SoulMate. Unfortunately we got separated due to immigration problems as we are not from the same country. One year on, we are apart. Meanwhile, 6 months ago, she got pregnant for some guy but removed it because she told me i am the one she want to have babies for. Now she is with another man again. I gave her up now. But i am unable to get her out of my head. No woman have a chance with me. I keep dumping all women who came my way and i am still thinking about this girl, looking at her pics all day long.
am i being such an idiot still being in Love with her? Many girls fell 4 me, but i am just ignoring them. I love this girl more and more while she is ignorin me more and more
2007-03-08 03:24:07 · 5 answers · asked by chrichri_b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you'd make a great stalker bwahah
2007-03-08 03:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by andrew a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are going through something fierce. I take it that you don't have another female companion at your side at the moment. That makes it even harder. This is actually a good place to come to. Seeing as how i just got out of a 4 year relationship too. People will tell you time will heal, people will tell you "no words i can say will ease your pain" which all of it is true. What you are going through it feels like no one else could be feeling, I know it hurts. You've been on an extreme emotional roller coaster. Obviously this girl doesn't deserve you at all, and I'm sure you have been told this by family and friends. If you pursue this girl, you will just continue to feel this miserable pain. if this is what you want then so be it. However if you want to be happy, Your only option is to move on. Seeing as how your past with this girl is heavy. Don't contact her, don't take her calls, Find a female companion to grieve too. Move on, and save yourself from all of this pain.
2007-03-08 11:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not love her and she does not love you. I just had to bluntly get that notion out of our head immediately. What the two of you had was an extremely unhealthy relationship (if you can call it that!). You romanticised the whole thing in your head my friend. My guess is that she was your first 'love'. Move on, she will never change. You are only attracted to the thought of her because of the fact that she is ignoring you. There is no such thing as a soulmate, a lovely young lady awaits you in your future, open your eyes and respect yourself. Don't allow your lack of self-esteem to prevent you from enjoying a real relationship, you deserve to be happy.
2007-03-08 11:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by the15don86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you truly love someone from the heart and it doesn't work out it just takes a lot of time to heal those wounds. But you really need to get out and meet new people because thinking about it and dwelling on it can lead to depression and life is too short to be depressed all the time. Your not an idiot because you still love her because it doesn't just go away overnight. Just make yourself get out and do things and remember that her life hasn't stopped it's went right on and yours is the only one that's standing still.
2007-03-08 11:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you dude, but maybe moving on is the best thing to do. It sounds like she can do whatever she wants, but you cant. If you aren't happy, then you need to change something. Just try to go on like one date and see how it goes. It should make you feel better. If i was with someone who pulled me back at total random times, i would go crazy.
it almost sounds like your her "back-up"
sorry to be harsh, but i'm just saying what i think. good luck
2007-03-08 11:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋