how do i tell my husband????

Question

hi guys
i really dont know what to do i am 23 years old and my hubby is 42 i have 2 kids and he has 3 and i really want another child i love kids but he doesnt want us to have anymore! i would love to be a forster parent but i now he doesnt want that either. but my big problem is i had cancer of the womb and never thought i would have anymore but i have missed a period and done a test the result is a shock,i never thought i would see that little blue line again.so what shall i do i REALLY dont know how to tell him???????

right i have had the coil in since the day i finished my treatment.so thats whats failed not me or my husband if you dont have any good advice dont answer this question

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I have a three year old and my partner has two kids from his first marriage, When i found out i was pregnant it was one hell of a shock. I was on the pill and he'd had a vasectomy!! However i got pregnant before he had that and i had to tell him even though he had said he didn't want anymore children and was adamant about it. He was so angry and wouldn't accept it and i have to admit, treated me appallingly after he found out. So i told him to accept it or leave. But towards the end we had both discussed it and he apologised and after our son was born he melted and now you wouldn't even know that he'd ever been angry. He does have moments when he gets stressed because the babies crying but he loves his son to bits and is a very proud father. I hope that when you tell him, he'll stand by you like my partner did and see that it's not the end of the world. Tell him on your own away from the other children and just really talk things through. Good luck, I'll keep fingers and toes crossed for you and by the way.... Congratulations!! P.s to robbie64, you obviously haven't had children and i hope to god with an attitude like that, you never will.

Answer 2

I would wait till the kids are all in bed and tell him you have a problem that you need his help with. Explain that something must have gone wrong with the contraception, and you have just done a test, and look what it says, show him the test!

As everyone else has said it must be a miracle, due to your past, and ask him what you should do? it may probably be easier to get used to if you ask and advise rather than tell. You both have children of your own but this will be a child that will be a part of you both biologically, and maybe your last?

Good Luck and Congrats to you both! try not to worry it will be ok!

Answer 3

Do you love him? Does he love you?

I would hope so. The secret to a happy married life is the building of trust and being able to discuss things together.

I can see why you may be worried he might think you have arranged this but hey you just have to face it. The longer you wait the more he will question why you did not tell him earlier. That can only build distrust where there may not be any.

I strongly advise you to bite the bullet, sit him down and tell him you think you are pregnant as soon as possible.

There may be rows, accusations and worse case scenario, a walk out - but hey - telling him now gives you a chance to keep talking and resolve it. The longer you wait, the less time!

But first things first - if you had cancer of the womb - do not trust the test. Get to a doctor and get checked out properly and for goodness sake tell your husband you are doing it and ask for his support.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Tell him go to the store and buy a bunch of pink and blue balloons and put them in his car so when he gets up the next morning he will have a surprise. Tie another test to one of the strings and anchor it so tht when he opens the door that one will not fly out. If he doesn't get it explain to him that god must want you to have another child por he would not have allowed you such a special gift to be able to give the world.

Answer 5

Firstly congratulations xx i think you are very lucky to be blessed with a child of your own and you must have done something very impressive to deseve that baby .Many woman in the world would love a child and can't have children .Take up the opertunity while you have it . Follow your heart . If you get rid of it you may regret it . Do what you think is best for yourself and the baby but speak to your husband dont make serious decisions by yourself hun x Ask him what he thinks and if he doesnt belive you show him the blus line !! He will have to accept it and when its hits him that your having a baby he will be extatic about it all , i bet . So best of luck Hun And good luck with the baby xxxxxx

Answer 6

i have been trying for over a year to have a baby i have got 2 and i love children has well,

i think you need to sit your hubby down and count to 3 and tell him that you love him very much and then tell him that your pregnant, see what he say yes he mite be up sat because he told you that he doesn't wont any more kids, but give him time to grow on it and let him think about it
i think he be happy deep inside and i hope it works out for both of you good luck

Answer 7

Just tell him I prey he reacts as I did when I had an unexpected arrival which was to support my ex and show her I cared. Ps I love my daughter and was almost in tears as I held her for the first time she is 2 mnths old. No point in waiting and worrying I wish you well

Answer 8

Show him in a cute way like putting a shirt on your youngest child saying BIG SIS or BRO. He should be happy that you two created a new baby.. My hubby never wanted any more kids after the first child but when I got pregnant he wasn't mad he was happy........

Answer 9

What a lovely surprise. Tell him and I am sure he will be happy after the initial shock, after all, what is one more baby when you already have a five children between you already! Good luck.

Answer 10

Tell him just what you wrote in your question. Explain to him how blessed you feel to have the opportunity to have his child. If he is a good parent (which he must be or he wouldn't have 3 of his own and have taken on yours as well) then he understands the love a parent feels for a child and will probably be excited.