My son yells A LOT?

Question

My 3 yr old yells a lot, in fun and when he's mad. He just makes loud funny noises sometimes when he playing, walking around. When he is scolded by me he even grunt loudly made up words like "Gock!"
He speaks very well, have been told my educators that he has vast vocabulary and talks clearly.
The problem is #1 when my 5 months is sleeping I am trying to keep him quiet so that she won't wake up and he doesn't listen and of course it escalates into a time out and# 2 frankly it's very irritating.
Am I expecting too much of a 3 yr old by telling him to lower his voice all the time? Am I just making him want to do it more ( I think so)? Is it not fair to him that he can't express himself?
What do you think, ignore it and if the baby wakes Oh well or try to teach him to have more control of his impulses to be loud at this age?

Answer 1

Do you remember being in school and having your "inside voice" and "outside voice". Make sure he has time to use his outside voice but make it clear you expect him to use his inside voice, especially when baby is sleeping.

Answer 2

Have you tried to play a quiet game with him while you're 5 month old is sleeping??I know you could do ALOT while the baby is sleep but you know motherhood has sacrafices ;) puzzles ..coloring...have him help you cook or put clothe and washing powder in the machine think of stuff to include him when you do something to keep him busy
hope i helped mine are 10 & 7 and my son was always eager to help give her the bottle or change her diapers( what a picture LOL )
Smiley :)

Answer 3

Try getting him to only do it outside or in his bedroom. My son to enjoys being loud, mostly for fun but also to get a reaction. Maybe try putting him in his room for a nap or quite time when the baby is napping. Maybe let watch a movie at that time of the day, as a treat for being quiet. Good Luck

Answer 4

Whenever my kids (all under age 5) start yelling, I talk to them very quietly. My oldest, who is four, has learned that when I talk very low she has to strain to hear me and therefore, can't yell loudly. My son, who is two, hasn't quite gotten it yet. But I just try to be patient. They are learning what their voices can do and are probably trying your patience. I don't think you are expecting too much of your son, but just know that at three he doesn't really care much about anyone else but himself.

I understand what you're saying about the five-month-old sleeping. I have one of those too.

Answer 5

Sit him down and explain why you are asking him to keep his tone down. Also you may want to find out why he is doing it. More than likely, he feels that he has lost attention to his baby sister, and a way to get some attention is to yell. And with you reacting, it is working.

I would sit him down and explain that he is the big brother, and one of the many jobs of the big brother is to make sure that his little sister gets enough sleep so she can grow up healthy and happy. And then I would make it a big deal that he is the big brother. Give him some "jobs" to help out with his little sister's care. Maybe he gets the diaper at changing time, or he holds the bottle for a time during feedings. Or maybe he chooses a toy for his sister to play with for a time.

And to help, plan some time for just you and him. He is feeling like he is forgotten, and that the baby gets all of the attention he used to get. Have someone babysit your daughter, and then you and your son go out to lunch at a place of his choosing, or go somewhere that is fun for you and him. To the park for a day and play on the swings, or go to the store and get something for just him. Find things you both will enjoy. My friend has three kids, and she does what are called "date nights" with them. Her two daughters are 16 and 15, and her son is 12. Each one of them still get to plan a night with mom where they are the only one with mom. They go to the movies, or out to dinner, or somewhere they plan. And it is their time with mom. Each kid gets their own "date night", and they love it still. Something like that for you and your son, and then later with your daughter when she gets old enough, will not only make the kids happier, but strengthen your bonds with each of them and be something they remember for their life time.

I bet you will find the voice volume dropping once your son gets more of your attention. Good luck!!

Answer 6

You should teach him to be under control of his vocals even though he is only three years old. He will have to learn someday andit is always better to learn early on ten later in life by someone he doesnt even know.

Answer 7

I use tell my kids to use their indoor voices and show them what I am talking about. Now all I have do do is ask them if they are indoors or outdoors, when they answer I ask what voice they should be using. They say sorry and then they go play.

Answer 8

When outside let him talk in a loud vioce and stress when indoors we use quiet vioces.

Answer 9

whisper to him when he's yelling so he'll have to stop and listen to hear what you have to say. if he doesnt then when he's done say " i was trying to offer you a popsicle but you couldnt hear me cuz you were yelling" then he's more likely to stop and listen next time you whisper. then tell him if he whispers to you you'll be able to play with him more....you know reward if he follows your lead.

Answer 10

Slap him in the mouth