I am currently 16 and have fallen i love with a 19 year old. We want to get married when i turn 18. Is that a bad thing if we are truley in love.
2007-03-08 03:13:26 · 9 answers · asked by allisay2008 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a similar situation. As it turned out, after the uncontrolable sex , the reality of keeping a steady job , and a family, ( oh, the baby was concieved after the 6th month into our marriage) to support, things got to be a little overwhelming. Just close your eyes for a minute or two and imagine 2 years from now. Hmmmm, you're eighteen, prom, gotta pick that right dress, graduation etc. Him, turning the big 21 ! Legal drinking age, maybe going to a bar/club or two with some close friends. ( maybe a strip club now and again ) Oh, and maybe there might be a girl or two turning the big 21 at the same bar/club. No biggy right? I remember when I turned the big 21. A home made birthday cake with my 2 month old baby girl and my young wife, who didn't graduate from High School, and me. It was sweet and cute in so many ways. Did I miss out? Maybe , I didn't care, but, she sure did! She wanted to make up for it. She wasn't going to be happy spending her 21 at home. Can't blame her. To make a long story short, it didn't work out. Getting married young, promising to be together , it's all beautiful. If you and Mr.19 are serious, think it out. You know, the for "real" stuff. Education and CAREERS! There is so much to gain when two people have a plan , memories, sense of accomplishment, knowing that your parents actually like the both of you as a couple. All those +++++++++++s. So good luck and see if the both of you are "mature" enough to talk it over with those very important people, your parents. If you can't bring it up without fear of negative feed back from them, no you are not ready to decide. ( test the waters, 'mom, how old were you when you first thought of getting married to a guy/dad? )True Love, beautiful. A well thought out plan of a Life together, Priceless!
2007-03-08 03:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A three year age difference is nothing at all. I used to be married to a man, nine years older than me.
We met when I was 19 and he was 28. When I turned 21, we got married....he was 30 years old.
We were married for quite a few years but, it didn't work out in the end....for us, the age gap proved to be too great.
Everyone is different. If you feel ready at the age of 18 to get married, then go for it.
2007-03-08 11:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not a bad thing, just make sure your ready and are able to deal with the bad parts of the marriage, because there will be some bad parts. Just remember to always stick with it and never give up and take the easy way out and get a divorce (unless he hits you, your kids, or cheats on you), in that case, you should have known what kind of man he was before you married him. People like that don't change to the worse over night, young girls just are blind to it. Good luck, I wish you both great happiness and I hope it will work out.
2007-03-08 11:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by What Do I Know? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, marriage at eighteen is way too young. You have so much living to do. Don't rob yourself of the best that is yet to come. Finish high school & go to college or attend a trade school. There's a whole new world out there waiting for you.
2007-03-08 11:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if you find true love it is a gift to get married at any age.I admire your decision to postpone it until you are 18.In this 2 year gap life will teach you lot of lessons.You will be much grown up emotionally by then.Work on your goals in life and future.In two years time life will teach you weather to continue your marriage plans or to further postpone it.If still you boyfriend is your true lover by then go ahead...... you have found true love.
Good luck.
2007-03-08 11:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by naz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not a bad thing. If you wait until you are 18 and you are both still in love then it should be great.
2007-03-08 11:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by myharleyisfun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are TRUELY in love with him still when you're 18, go for it. My husband is 8 years older than me. So there's nothing wrong with it. I admire you wanting to wait until you are a legal adult age.
2007-03-08 11:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by jean d 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, never never ever get married at any age.
2007-03-08 11:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not at all if yall love each other then yall should marry good luck
2007-03-08 11:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by soyelnegrito 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋