What are some DON'TS when socializing?

Question

or hanging out with others whether it's your friends(not real friends) or aquaintances?

What are some DO's and DON'ts in actions and words?

Answer 1

Be a good listener. Not only will this make people more likely to want to be around you, you will learn about these people and what they're like. What you learn may make you decide not to hang out with them, or make you decide you want to be around them more.

Observe the way others talk about and treat other people. People who are catty and mean to other people will, if it suits them, be catty and mean to you behind your back.

Don't get upset if some people don't like you or don't want to hang out with you. It's unlikely you like everyone you meet, and the same is true for other people. And it's okay to not be popular with everyone. (There are some people whose disapproval of you may be positively a good thing.)

Don't try to one-up or top everyone else's story. You don't have to be the star of every conversation. Sometimes your best role is a supporting one.

Don't ever talk down to people or patronize them because you think you know more than they do or are smarter than they are. People know when someone is talking down to them, and this will quickly get you disliked.

Don't try to choose the people you associate with based on whether you think they're "good enough" or important enough for you to socialize with. (We had a guy here at work, a new hire, who didn't want to waste his time being friendly with people who weren't engineers, who were "only" support personnel, and he'd either ask people point-blank if they were engineers or subtley work the conversation around to find out. If you weren't an engineer, he'd drop you like a hot potato. He did this to me, because I was "only" a tech writer. Except that my husband, with whom he unknowingly worked, was two levels above him on the management ladder. Boy was he surprised.)

Spend some time getting to know people before deciding whether you want to get closer to them or not. Snap judgements may lead to regrets later.

The best people to be around are people who are kind, and who are genuinely comfortable inside their own skins. They don't try to pretend they're someone they aren't, and they don't try to distort themselves to fit in. These are good people to be around-- and even better to be. This is the kind of person you want to be if you want to be liked.

Good luck.

Answer 2

1.) Don't make your kid(s) re-enact their roles from the last school play they were in.
2.) Don't move while you have a 'social event' taking place; the eviction notice can wait 'til the party's over.
3.) Don't try to pass off cheese and tomato sauce on toast as pizza; even drunks know when you're trying to screw 'em over.
4.) Never set up your drug-room in the kitchen; you wouldn't believe how many boxes of baking powder I've lost due to over-active snorters.
5.) Don't put the cheese and cracker tray next to the aquarium; it's only a matter of time before some smart-*ss puts your REAL goldfish into the cracker selection.
6.) Do be sure to party where there's enough parking; walking eight blocks to find your car when you're three sheets to the wind can be VERRRY difficult.
7.) Do tremember to put any clothing you remove at a party in a safe place; otherwise you may find yourself driving/walking/going home in a borrowed towel or other 'loaner' clothing that may not be 'gender appropriate'. (Note: this may not be a bad thing if you live alone, but if other people share your domain, you run the risk of being ragged on until H*ll freezes over.)
8.) Do remember to get out of the pool/hot tub/jacuzzi before you take a leak; not everybody shares your fascination for/attraction to 'golden showers'.

I trust that you will find these "Do's" and Don't's" useful.

Party Hearty!

Answer 3

Always include everyone in the conversation. Don't embarass anyone to get a cheap laugh. Don't gossip about others as in addition to it not being a nice thing to do, it will most likely get back to the person and cause more conflict and heartache. Try not to dominate the conversation as someone else suggested but instead listen while perhaps responding with a head nod or a 'yeah' or such. (Always have good hygiene ;)

Answer 4

If I don't know the person well, I tend to listen to what they have to say, join in the conversation if I have something of interest to add. Usually there is some common interest amoung the group. Keep away from touchy subjects. Everyone has a different point of view. Try not to get into any "debating".

Always show good manners.

Answer 5

1. Telling people you just met, personal things about yourself right away.

2.Immediatly doing things that you'd do with your REAL friends, that are otherwise acceptable. I think you have to fel them out first.

3.I think you should still be yourself either way, but tailoring small things because you dont wanna let them into your circle SO VERY quickly.

4. Negativily speaking about people you all know.

Answer 6

The people you are with, whether friends, aquaintances, or just the cashier at the store, is more important than anyone on your phone, or the music on your ipod, or your handheld video game. TURN OFF THE ELECTRONICS!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Don't simply focus on the most attractive person in the group. Include everyone in conversation with eye contact when taking in general.

Answer 8

Don't talk about yourself the whole time.

I have a friend who every time you call her to talk about a personal issue you are having, somehow the conversation always turns to her and her issues. That pisses me off!

Example:

Me: "My husband just got caught cheating on me....What should I do?"

Friend: "That's a shame, you should leave him.....I just got laid off, My dog is sick, My bills are due, etc......"

Answer 9

Don't brag, don't criticize, don't over talk, don't cut off people.

Do listen, let the other person lead, acknowledge, and respond when appropriate.

Good luck ;)

Answer 10

Don't hog all the conversation, and don't laugh at every thing.