So I recently met this guy and we totally hit it off. I've met his friends and he's met mine and we all get along. He's an undercover cop and works nights a lot. Last week he worked 72 hours on 7 hours of sleep so I know his schedule is tough for any social activities.
We used to talk almost everyday and now I'm lucky if I hear from him a couple times a week. He called me Sunday and we had great conversation and he apologized for his crazy work schedule and said he hoped we could make things work so we could hang out this week. Last night I gave him a call afterwork to say "Just called to say hey and see how your week's going. Talk to you soon." No response.
What should I think? Is he blowing me off? He recently got divorced too and I know he's not looking for anything serious, and neither am I, but I feel lost now... Thanks
2007-03-08 03:12:16 · 12 answers · asked by electra1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As far as him being divorced, he did tell me that and they went before the judge January 22 so it is a new divorce. He's always been upfront with me and asked that I do the same because his divorce wasn't too smooth.
2007-03-08 03:23:49 · update #1
I've met his partners and I have another friend who works in the same police department although they don't work together. He's told me that he started working A LOT after the divorce was finalized.
If he just wants to be friends, that's perfectly fine. I'm just getting worked up I think because I'm in limbo not knowing what's going on, and I was looking to get to know him better.
2007-03-08 03:27:09 · update #2
Don't read too much into it, it's his work schedule... he will call :)
He's interested, he has told you that, hang in there.
2007-03-08 03:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't call him anymore. His schedule is crazy so you are making yourself too available for him to accommodate his schedule.
I'm not sure I'm buying the 72 hour thing either. I know a lot of cops, that's a lot of overtime, undercover or no. Sure he doesn't have another lady on the side?
He's already told you he isn't into anything serious, but even though you say you aren't either, you're already getting upset by his behavior.
I say blow him off and get with someone that has a normal schedule and can accommodate you. Don't sell yourself short.
***Exactly my point, you're getting worked up and he probably isn't giving it a second thought. Newly divorced means a lot of anger and abandonment issues. You don't need this mess in your life. I wouldn't really bother with the friends thing. Men don't do friends with women, they only want to get in your pants.
Keep trying if you want to, but I say this guy isn't worth your time or effort.
2007-03-08 03:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your getting worked up because you want this to go somewhere. This is not an easy occupation. All his buddies are going to tell you how wonderful he is (what did you think they would say there his friends) His wife would not have divorced him if he was so wonderful. If you are looking to go out once in a while if he is free and wants to see you great. If you are looking to date this guy forget it. You want to be a rebound? No one right from a divorce wants to jump into another relationship. I would be blowing him off as this guy needs time alone to get his head on straight.
2007-03-16 02:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't respond back, I think he just might want to be friends with you and that is all. Maybe he is just too busy with work. He probably married his job considering the 7 hours of sleep and 72 hours of work. He seems like he is more into his job than you. If he really was into you, he would spend more time with you and probably say that he is into you. I don't know if he is blowing you off since the both of you aren't looking into anything serious. I suggest you go on with your life and if you aren't looking into a relationship and he isn't either, then there isn't really anything to worry about.
2007-03-08 03:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No he is not blowing you off. He is just too busy with work that he doesnt have time for social events. Being a cop is not easy and u knew his profession before y'all started getting into each other. I advise u to leave him alone and if it was meant to be who knows, ur paths might cross again. So don't sweat it, u said he wasn't looking for anything serious so you have to do you. You can't keeep waiting round for him to get serious...u need to live your life, meet other pple. And if he thinks of you and calls u fine, if not its great cos then u are not all alone thinking about him. I wish u da best.
2007-03-16 03:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by 98#$%7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is do you know 110% for sure he is a cop. A lot of men will say they are cops when they aren't they use it as a way of picking up women. And saying you're undercover is a good way to be secretive about having a wife or a number of girlfiends.
If you go to any polive station and say I am trying to contact police officer , ' Whatever his name is" they should be able to look him up and tell where or how he can be contacted.
Once you established that for sure then reasses the problem.
2007-03-08 03:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lou 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its hard when someones work schedual is crazy like that. but it seems hes interested in you try to hold out! i know it hard not being able to see someone. but do the best yo u can. the reason he cant call you right away is because he is a police officer and they do need to do their job. so relax try to get ur mind of it and i guess hope for the best. but dont get urself worked up over it. if its ment to happen it will.. and from the looks of things so far so good!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-16 02:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a law enforcement officer for a short time - most of them ARE players (the one I dated was and thus the reason I ended it). They have crazy schedules and meet a lot of women. It's possible he is an exception to the rule - but I'm not so sure I'd be willing to set myself up.
2007-03-08 03:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 21:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, he's a player. Most cops are of any type. I know a girl who married one and wasted over 20 years of her life. At least he told her about all the cheating several years into it -but she stayed anyway.
You'll find out. Hopefully not the hard way. Get rid of him or figure out how you can get something out of this guy if you are going to hang around and listen to his lies.
2007-03-08 03:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋