I don't mean one night stands or even a couple of "dates". I am wondering about if you are seeing a woman for more than a year and having GREAT sex with her, can you continue to stay emotionally uninvolved? On the same note, if you were in a "committed" relationship with another woman, could you cheat on her to keep having sex with another woman whom you'd dated prior to meeting your current SO just because the sex was really good with the other woman without developing feelings for the other woman?
2007-03-08 03:09:11 · 14 answers · asked by Laurie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Very tough question. The answer, unfortunately, is not universal. Most men, especially in there 40's have some appreciation of the stable life afforded by a monogamous relationship with someone they care about. Also, unfortunately, there many men that fit the "all men are dog's" stereotype. These men will have sex with anyone as often as humanly possible. I think it was Chris Rock that said 'men are only as faithful, as their options'. It is not really true of all men but as with anything that is humorous, there is some truth in it.
2007-03-08 03:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
I'm a man in my 40s, and for a variety of reasons I would not be having sex with someone for a long period unless I were emotionally involved. It would probably happen even if I tried to avoid it.
But if you are asking whether a man could be involved with two women at once, and feel some emotions for both - or neither - I'd say it's possible.
There are people out there who just use others, and people who are immature and don't know their own feelings. And still others who try to juggle like this, for whatever reasons.
I would say that the man you describe is most probably more trouble than he's worth for ANY woman he's involved with. Whether he knows what he's doing or not - he may not have the emotional intelligence to examine or understand his actions - he will end up hurting people.
Protect yourself. Good luck.
2007-03-08 03:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can not speak for ALL men in their 40's, but for myself sex is a very intimate act. I could not simply perform the act without there being emotional involvement, and as for cheating on the one I am emotionally involved with......I wouldn't want that person to treat me this way so I certainly would not do this to her....of course in the extreme if my life or her life depended on my performing a sexual act I guess I would definitely do it....it would mean nothing and I would only be doing it for our continued existence. hope this helped in some way
2007-03-08 03:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by l00kstwice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. To maintain a platonic relationship takes both parties to keep the meeting casual. When one begins to weaken, the other falls, of course. Eventually the tryst becomes boring because even though it was and may still be great, something will always be missing.
2007-03-08 03:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if I am getting some good sex with a woman and from teh start I told her " no strings" well I would keep doing it to her with no emotional ties at all. But maybe one day I would but as long as she wanted it with no strings hey free stuff. If I was committed to a woman and I would cheat on her if she wasn't giving me enough sex and I would then have one on the side just for that as long as the girl knew it was "no strings". But if I was committed and she was giving me all I wanted naw I wouldn't cheat . And if you want to chat more Just IM me and we might give it a go too
2007-03-08 03:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly cannot have an unattached sexual affair. I am sure some men can but I just need the emotional attachement to be able to perform at my best. It takes time to get to know someone and know what turns them on. I like to deliver in that regard.
2007-03-08 03:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I am a woman ... but I have seen men do this in their 30's, 40's and 50's. And amazingly enough they find women stupid enough to put up with it.
2007-03-08 03:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all I met her for was the sex, yeah probably. Emotions play very little in sex (for men). It really depends on the "comitted" part. If I am comitted then no, if she thinks I'm comitted then maybe.
2007-03-08 03:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure can. Unless it is the bomb. Then I might start feeling a stirring. But usually no.
2007-03-08 03:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Michael b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course we can, we men, thus we are capable of anything. Doesn't mean we all would do it but we are capable of doing it.
2007-03-08 03:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by Quix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋