my bf and I dated for a few months - everything was great. got along very well, no problems at all. he surprisingly even told me he loved me. said he knew it seemed early to say it, but there is just something there that he can't describe, he's never felt this way, all of that stuff. then, just 2 days after that, he stops talking to me. i asked him a ? that may have made him mad, but he hasn't told me why he is really mad. just ignores me. won't text me back, answer the phone, etc. what has me confused it that he will text me out of the blue and say things like i miss you, then he'll text right back and say maybe, a little, okay, yes, i miss you a little. he has done that several times. little things like that. i don't respond because i don't know what to think of it. so, do u think he's really done or just needs time or what?? i feel stupid holding on, but i do miss him and want to at least try and talk it out with him. any suggestions?
2007-03-08 03:02:14 · 7 answers · asked by shorty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no lol... i didn't ask when we were getting married. we were joking around about fooling around, etc. and i jokingly asked if that was the only reason he was seeing me. i was joking with him because i didn't think at all that's what it was about. but i didn't even get a chance to explain that. i've apologized a million times to him thru text and vm but still nothing than the occasional text from him. from what a few friends said, they think i may have just hurt him, like a slap in the face after him telling me how he feels, I went and asked that kind of ?.
2007-03-08 03:22:12 · update #1
ok... when he told you ghe loves you, did you say to him that you love him, too? and what was the question you asked him that you think got him mad -- it can be that. he may be feeling rejected or that you didn't take his "i love you" seriously enough that's why he's trying to pull away a little bit. maybe you're both thinking the same thing: that the other needs space, when in fact it's all just a little misunderstanding. talk to him about how you feel. if this guy is worth it, he'll talk abt it with you and you guys can patch things up...:)
2007-03-08 03:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by schatz101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are such A holes! I know exactly what you mean. The crap I went through and still going through. It is enough to drive one crazy.
Being you are right now at the stage where he is not contacting you...my suggestion is... DO NOT CONTACT HIM or even talk about him to friends that talk to him. Enjoy the peace. Sooner or latter he is going to contact you again with the "I miss you" line. hold firm at that time and make him commit further. Don't be mean, don't try to get him to explain himself. Just let him ramble until he figures out what he is trying to say.
2007-03-08 11:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a joke to me if you are telling the story right. He is either emotionally screwed up or playing you and is spending time with the other lover right now. You haven't thought of this?
2007-03-08 11:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you just let him go so you can save yourself from being hurt. Nobody deserves those kind of mind games. And thats exactly what they are MIND GAMES. You sound like a nice sincere girl and I think you know that you don't deserve to be treated like that.
2007-03-08 11:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn girl, what did you ask him? when are we getting married? seems that what ever it was really threw him for a loop and he didn't realize you were at that level already. Just ask him out and talk about the question, try to make amends for asking it.
2007-03-08 11:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he is confused and overwhelmed by his own feelings towards you. You do not need to push him, just leave him alone to see how he responds. The more you push him, the less he will say.
2007-03-08 11:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in exactly same situation. hope others answer, will help me too
2007-03-08 11:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by susieboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋