Does my g/f want to much control?

Question

my g/f does not want me to think about other girls in "that way" when I am alone, or at any time. she says it would be extremely hurtful to her. obviously i can lie about my thoughts, no one can prove a thing. but i don't like to lie. furthermore, i believe that what i think and what i act out are completely different and should be judged accordingly. Also, i dont think she has a right to control my imagination. how do other girls feel about this? do you try to impose, or think it is right to impose limitations on another persons thoughts? or is my g/f trying to get to much control?

Answer 1

She just doesn't want you to think of the other girls as your girlfriend. You see, girls, like myself, are very afraid of losing our boyfriends. All girls agree w/ me there. She must really like you and doesn't want to leave you. It's her way of saying that she really loves you, not that she wants control over your head. She thinks, what I think, that when you start thinking of other girls as ur girlfriend, you'll want to be with them more than her.

-hope this helped

Answer 2

well that question has a lot of answers. I mean no your g/f shouldn't control your imagination but put yourself in her shoes. Would you want her sexually thinking of another guy? Even if she didn't act on those thoughts wouldn't it kind of make you feel like your not satisfying her enough or like your inadequate to her? You always have to put the shoe on the other foot sort of speak. If you find that a situation might be upsetting to you then it probably would be the same for your g/f. Of course you may not care if you g/f thinks if other men as long as she is faithful to you but I know that in my opinion I wouldn't want my b/f to think of other girls and I know he wouldn't want me to fantasize about other men either. Maybe if you two can't see eye to eye on this you should talk and possibly decide to have this be one of those topics you just drop and never discuss openly with each other. I mean it's not always easy to do something like that but it is better than fighting over an issue that can't be solved. Either way just try to be a least a bit understanding to your g/f. Good luck!

Answer 3

My answer would be yes. I can't control what my husband thinks much less can he control my thoughts of who is hot on tv and what movie star I would leave him in a heartbeat if the option was there. She is probably feeling insecure, I wouldn't flat out lie to her but use common sense. If she catches you checking out another girl, reassure her that she is the only one that you want to be with and that your a guy and guys look. If I have issues with my husband over issues like this I make it into a game or a deal. You can look at all the porn you want if I get sex ___ number of nights. Or having my best friend flirt with him and get him all flustered and then joking around with him about it. Also, I take an active part in him looking at other woman when we are out and about. He will point them out and ask my opinion, that way he gets to look and gets me to be an active part of his looking, that way he doesn't feel like he is lying or hiding it from me. Plus, he loves hearing my responses because we have totally different opinions on what looks good. If all else fails, you might just have to sit down and talk with her because she can't control your thoughts, you can't even control your thoughts they are what they are.

Answer 4

How many, how often, and how long do you think about other girls in "that way". If you think about other women often, then it is a problem. She probably just wants you to be faithful to her (it's REALLY not too much to ask) If you are with someone, she should be the only one you care about in "that way"

Typically, thoughts lead to actions, by the way.

However, the occasional glance at a nice a** is just something a guy just can't help.

Answer 5

I'm the same way. I see your point, but I'll give you another perspective: The reason that she prolly says it is extremely hurtful to her (and my reason as well) is because it makes her feel like she's not good enough for you. That her physical body is not enough to satisfy your needs. It really hurts her pride and self esteem, as a woman and as your lover. If you have such an issue about it, talk to her and let her know how you feel, but make sure you listen to her and consider her feelings, because she needs to know you're being honest, but that you care about what she thinks and feels.

Answer 6

Depends what you mean by think about - if you mean find them attractive then she can't ask you not to think about other girls. I bet she finds other men attractive - it's normal. You probably shouldn't be too in her face about it as she sounds like she's quite insecure. I trust my bf completely but I have to say that it does get a bit tired and sometimes hurtful when he tells me that he fancies every other woman we see on TV or in a movie or on a poster. If he told me he found me gorgeous a bit more often maybe I wouldn't mind so much.... So - don't compromise yourself, but think a little but about her feelings too.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

No one can control your thoughts..
I would just set down and let her know how you feel..

If your mind is gonna play games on your relationship then your gonna in the end have to set down and have a heart to heart and find a middle ground..

Answer 9

I don't care what anyone says. If you truly loved your girlfriend you wouldn't think about any other girls. It has nothing to do with control. She just wants top be the only girl you have sexual thoughts about. And rightfully so. Would you want her thinking about other guys that way. If you say you dont care you obviously dont love her and you need to move on.

Answer 10

lol my son always says "its my imagination and you cant do anything about it" I think that is so funny. You should be able to think what ever you want. Does she not think other men are hot, even actors or what ever. YES she is trying to be to controlling. Maybe just dont tell her what you are always thinking about, it is better than lying to her.