Ok long story short. I was seeing this guy for over a year, mostly casual, good friends, flirted, got jealous of each other-practically like gf/bf. but we never went that far, or made things that serious, but we saw each other every week or weekend. anyway, he had to move back to his hometown 2 be closer 2 his family/friends, & for a job. but he still wanted 2 keep in contact with me, even though we'd be 2 states away. which he still has his phone # that he had here, after 9 months of leaving from here. he's contacted me here & there but I do more of the contacting. so..1 of the times he told me that he had met this girl-I don't know if it was to make me jealous or what. then the next time I talked to him, he said he was on a break from her and he hadn't connected w/ his friends back home like he thought he would. ANYWAY, why would he tell me about him & his girl not doing so well? he's telling me things aren't going well like he thought in all areas, so does he miss what he had here?
2007-03-08 02:56:35 · 15 answers · asked by c h i l l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something you need to ask him. Maybe he misses the friendship. But, you'll never know unless you ask him.
2007-03-08 03:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by txO3blueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was telling you the truth...he really had a thing for this other girl and maybe it just didn't work out. Long distance relationships, no matter how serious or not they are, can be difficult. Sure, he may miss you, but the fact that he seems to be keeping you on the back burner isn't fair to you. From what you are saying, you are a bit more into him than he is into you. Why don't you back off and see how he reacts or if he makes the attempt to contact you like you are doing for him. At that point you might be able to see where you stand. Right now you're just setting yourself up to get hurt...listen to what your mind is telling you, not your heart.
2007-03-08 11:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance realationships are hard and even harder the further away the two of you are. its good that you guys still talk but if you are the one doing most of the calling give him a talk about that...explain that you dot understand why you are the one doing most of the calling.
He probably still wants to be with you but lets face facts that living that far away it is hard to build a foundation for a realationship. You said that he was seeing another girl then they took a break and that he didnt get to hook up with old friends like he planned. He is probably a little disappointed that things arent working out like he had hoped so yeah he misses what he had, but lke most men arent going to say things like that.
reasure him that you'll be there for him and not to forget to remember you. if the two of you are meant to REALLY be together in the end it will come to pass....until that time just focus on life in general and give yor head a rest about this guy.
2007-03-08 11:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by autumn_aka_slick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of possible reasons why he says the things that he says, and the best way to find out what they are is to ask him. you seem to have had a good thing going on together for more than a year, and things like that are not easy to find, so he probably misses the comfort he had with you, esp now that things aren't working so well for him in his hometown. eventually, it'll end up to one of two things: him getting used to it & you'd slowly lose track of each other, OR he'll realize what a good thing he had with you & come back... :) good luck.
2007-03-08 11:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by schatz101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me tell you this, guys are not an open book! they will never tell you what they are thinking nor what they really want. so, number 1 if you are doing most of the calling and when he does call he tells you he is seeing someone else its probably because he does not want to be in a long distance relationship with you, I mean why on earth would he gone out with someone else right? so move on!!!! there is somebody else out there waiting for you.
2007-03-08 11:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by Denisse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say this and prolly hard for you to do this, but just leave him alone. Let him call YOU. Then you will see how much you mean to him. Guys are jerks (at least most of them) and they will keep any "no strings attached relationships" open just for the fun and companionship. Find you someone that wants to be with you and not move off.
2007-03-08 11:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you whats going on because you two were really close at some point in time it doesnt leave, you two will always be close. So what hes used to doing, which is just him including you in his life, hes doing now. From what it seems yea i'd say he misses what he used to have, it comes pretty standard when you love someone.
2007-03-08 11:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by Juhboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your friend. Why wouldn't he tell you those things? There may be something more here, but to find out if there is, one of you will have to take a risk and do something that might hurt the friendship... either that or meet up, get drunk together and see what happens.
2007-03-08 11:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by st3f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He values your friendship. He confided in you because he needed someone to talk to. There are probably feelings there as well, but he knows it can not be, because of the distance between you.
2007-03-08 11:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparantly he feels close enough to confide in you with all matters. Be open and honest with him as well. Sounds as tho you are very good friends.
2007-03-08 11:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋