Hi. My girl dumped me 5 wks ago (after going out 7 mths) as she said things had changed between us. I tried to convince her not to split but she wanted to do it.
I decided to keep contacting her was a bad idea. It would give her time to herself. She contacted me to say hi and that she had some of my stuff. She wanted to bring it over.
We spoke on the phone and decided to meet up for a drink. How do I play it. I want to come accross as interested but not pushy! How long should I let things carry on for before I ask her to get back with me?
Should I call stuff "dates" or "as friends" or just not say anything about why we are meeting??
2007-03-08 02:52:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometime u just need to move on
2007-03-08 02:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just play it cool for the first "date". She will expect you to ask her to take her back and if you don't then that will leave her wondering if you still want her back. If you lose all contact with her after that one date then she will start to worry and want to see you if she still cares for you. You should most def. question the meetings but not right away and just play it off as friends as first. She broke up with you to get away from the girlfriend/ boyfriend image. Just be friends right now and I'm sure she will come around.
2007-03-08 03:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun but it actually sounds like she wants to get rid of you and your stuff completely - and I dont think you do stand a chance!
Just act normal - you should be able to tell from her body language if shes there to merely give you back your stuff - or if theres any bit of a spark left between you.
I wouldnt mention anything about you two getting back together when you actually meet - if you have to though - text her after you've met her and say something like you hadnt realised how much you'd missed her til that night and would there be any chance of a reconciliation.
I honestly dont think there is by the wounds of it though.
Sorry!
xx
2007-03-08 02:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is meet her like you are doing and bring it up. Bring up that you have thought about giving it another shot. You can't really make someone be with you. All you can do is tell them how you feel. If she reciprocates then you will give it another go-round, if not at least you were upfront and you told her how you felt and you'll be better able to move on.
2007-03-08 03:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would play it slow.
I mean she might want to meet up with you just to give you your stuff back and that is it.
But then again she might be using that as an excuse to see you because she misses you.
I really am sorry about you having to go through this. I am kinda going through the same thing but I am still with my man.
Wish you the best.
2007-03-08 02:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Boo8081 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah dude hate to say it but these situations 9 times out of 10 don't turn out the way you want them and I'm not just speaking from personal experience. I don't know what advice to give you other than sometimes it's best to act like you don't care when you actually do. Girls feed off the attention when you're giving it to them and they know they have you right where they want you - but if you're not giving it to them they're starving for more. Good luck brotha'
2007-03-08 03:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by psyflops_gazelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, girls are like butterflies..the more you'll try to catch them, the more they'll run away!
Make it like it is very emotional meeting..as if you'll never meet again..just say"i wanna say i love you for the last time..and i wanna remember all those days when we were together..." Pretend as if you are ready for split up but say that things could have been improved...
2007-03-08 02:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're not a wee bit obsessed with this? You have asked about 5 questions on exactly the same thing.... Just take it easy, see what she says, don't push it and accept the outcome - whatever it is.
2007-03-08 03:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by kezls_79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey guy,
i'm not a relationship expert, but i've been in the same boat you're in right now. as harsh as it may sound, when someone breaks up with you for reasons like "things are changing between us" or "the sparks just aren't there" or "we're not what we used to be"... it usually means he/she is looking to go elsewhere, either already has someone lined up or is already seeing them. don't be surprised either about occasional get togethers that he/she sets up with you, because even though she is chasing after or dating someone else, it is just human nature to keep someone around that is safe, just in case things aren't or don't work out with the new person. just don't put yourself in the position to get hurt, or let me rephrase, continue getting hurt. cause honestly bro, she's really looking out for herself. you should do the same.
2007-03-08 03:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by ragefury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one. What was the reason she dumped you? This may put a brighter perspective on things. & there's the question: do you want to get back with her? I think you should keep things calm & collected. The ball's in her court, if she want's to get back with you then great, if not, then there are other fish in the sea. You should leave it to fate.
2007-03-08 03:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would just play it by ear.Dont expect anything other than a drink.Be nice but dont act like your whole future is at stake over this meeting.Stay cool.
2007-03-08 03:03:14 · answer #11 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋