My younger son who will be 7 (Chris) in two weeks was upset with my 8 1/2 year old son (Ricky). Ricky was using the computer and it was his turn, Chris wanted to use it so he bit Ricky really hard, things escalated from there, Chris threw clothes hangers at him (plastic kind) and threw a smal broom as well as other stuff ended up punching him in the nose and hitting him hard in the chest, Ricky did hit back a little bit, but heended up coming down staris out of breath looking for his inhaler, he gets the croup a couple of times in the winter otherwise he does not use an inhaler.It was almost a hopsital trip. I llove both sons, but recently Chris told his friends that Ricky is dumb and that he is smarter than him. Ricky is on an IEP program and progressing well. The other thing is that Chris won the cub scout pinewood Derby recently. My son Chris has an ego and a temper and it is all about him. I don't know what to do, please help!
2007-03-08 02:48:07 · 9 answers · asked by Cynthia R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Um - you need to get some order in your house - NOW. These boys have lost their mind, both of them! You must sit them down and let them know that fighting is unacceptable. If they are doing this at 7 & 8, just think if you don't fix this, what they'll be doing at 12 & 13 or older. Another thing is that Chris is out of hand by calling his brother names - he must have consequences. Take away something, punish him. Having a son on an IEP plan is a delicate subject and Chris needs to know that. Take control of your house before Chris starts taking control of you, Ricky and everyone else.
2007-03-08 02:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by downinmn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to handle Chris's ego problem NOW! That is no way to treat anyone let alone his very own brother. Somehow the lessons in compassion didn't sink in with him yet and he needs to be taught a lesson. Can you imagine how he must treat kids that he feels isn't a superior as he is at school and outside of the home??? He is young and there are alot of ways to teach compassion... have him volunteer with the special education kids at school if he can or volunteer period. Talk about feelings constantly... your feelings, his brothers feelings and his own feelings. A little grounding never hurt a kid either. Do whatever it takes because bullies cause havoc and heartache and you don't want the son you love being cruel to others. Good luck.
2007-03-08 04:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who is 6 and sometimes acts this way towards his brother who is 11. He is very determined to have things his way and ends up spending alot of time in time-out for this behavior. I try to intervene before to much hitting gets started. Sometimes his older brother will go back at him, others he just takes it because he knows that he is smaller than him. I am not sure what the best answer is, other than seperating him from the rest of the house, like putting him in his bed for a time out for a bit. That may help, our son has gotten better, its not so often now. And, we reward him fro good behavior so he is liking the rewards and aiming for good behavior most of the time.
2007-03-12 02:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang honey you have it ruff it sounds like i know someone that had the same problems as you are having and they tried every thing to keep the boys from fighting and nothing ever would work spankings and timeouts taking toys and games nothing . one day they called a family meeting ( if you don't know what this is you gather every one that lives there into a room for meeting) the parents told the two boy that every time they fought that they would have to kiss each other ( nothing sexual) on the butt check from that day on they never fought again cause they didn't want to do kiss each other it sounds weird i know i was weirded out by it but they say the councilor of the one boy suggested it and to this day they never fight ???? don't know if this will work for you or not good luck :) i will pray every thing will work out for you and your family
2007-03-08 03:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by just wandering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your son needs a good whoopin to me! You may not be the type that spanks thinking that it's "hitting" well it's not it's punishing if he does this again I'd whoop him let him cry it out 5 mins then let him know u still love him but he can't be doing things like that.
2007-03-08 04:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to both you boys. I had two boys a year apart and they were always fighting until they grew into adulthood. I used to put my children on a chair and they would stay there until I decided it was long enough. I would make it clear that there would be no physical fighting.
2007-03-08 06:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by laniejo52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a common thing for boys with older brothers at that age. They want to be stronger, smarter, faster, and just better than their older brother. You need to tell your younger son that fighting is not acceptable, spank him, ground him, and reinforce the idea that he just hurt his brother, and he needs to love his brother.
2007-03-08 02:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lock them together in a room to play games with each other every day.this will make them get to know each other better.
plan activities they can do together,
punish if they hit.by locking them in a room alone.with nothing to do but think.bring them to church maybe?as being around children their on age thats behaving might set them straught some.if that doesnt work beat them like yard dogs, ha ha ha.I am joking.Good Luck
2007-03-08 02:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should severely puunish him so he would never do it again, for example one thing you can do is ground him and tell him next time you go somewere fun he has to stay home. I think that is fair.
2007-03-08 03:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋