i'm feeling down. and i know the reason. I just keep holding onto the past.?

Question

and i feel uncertian about my future.. i just never seem to get over my ex.. HELP!!

Answer 1

Well, you are one step ahead of most -- you already know why you are down... now you need to work on what can get you back up.
Allow yourself time to sit and think of the bad things in the relationship -- reasons it didn't work and why it WON'T work if you's were to get back. Write your ex a letter but it is one you AREN'T going to send... tell him off it it, tell him how you are left feeling about the breakup... say all the things in this letter that you would want to say to him if given the chance... then sign it, put it in an envelope and put it away. Leave it there as if you'd sent it to him.
It isn't good to feel bad about something for too long... I mean was "he" really worth it? Do you think feeling this way is going to get him back? Do you think he even cares that you're feeling this way? Its bad enough you aren't with him, why prolong your pain of it all... if feeling this way isn't having and effect on getting him back then you have to come to terms with losing him and try your best to move on. We've all been through break ups and we all know your pain so I am not being mean when I say it's time you start trying things that can make you happy once again -- without him.

The best of luck to you kiddo.... Macs

Answer 2

Hey, everyone has their ups and downs. I do too.
I truly understand about you holding onto the past.

My best friend is currently is that same state as you are. I constantly remind her that we all will one day move on. Its all in the mind, sweetie. The past is the past, so if we want to let go of the past, we have to cross the barrier of believing in ourself that we can do it. And that we must constantly be reminded that holding on to the past is a very unhealthy thing.

So sweetie, now you know, you have to upgrade your confident and that you can find a better person rather than your ex. There's a lot of fishes in the sea.

Answer 3

I went through a similar period in my life recently. Change is the cure and I've realized it. Try to make an extra effort to see what things in your life bring you down, and figure out how you can change them. You have to learn from your past and become a better person, not dwell and rot in it.

The changes can be big or small, do whatever feels comfortable for you. You can make a small change or a big one like re-locating.

You'll be surprised how a simple thing like new furniture or painting your room a new color can really help you feel better.

Answer 4

It's ok to be down when some guy leaves you high and dry!! The heck with him, get on with your life. Plenty of fish in the sea and you're holding the net. If he don't love you, someone else will. They will respect you and not burn you. Good luck!! Keep your chin up(that way other guy's will see that pretty face of yours and then they will ask you out-within no time you won't even remember what your ex looks like)!

Answer 5

Holding onto the past is never healthy. You just have to find a way to get over it and move on. Once you do you will feel alot better.

Answer 6

follow the rule:
yesterday is history
tomorrow is a mystery
today is a gift...that is why they call it the present
The past is dead and gone...you can not go back. If you keep holding onto it you will miss out on today and who knows what wonderful things might come your way if you stop living in the past and start living in the now?

be cool...

Answer 7

Don't worry look at the mirror and u will see that u don't have to worry about that and your ex. U beautiful... Stop looking at the past, your life just begin!!!
Sorry if i can;t help u i don't know the real problem in your life and what happened with your ex.

Answer 8

Think about it like this while you're interrupting your life worried about what he's doing and if he still thinks about you I wonder what he's doing.Life is too short to dwell on the past it didn't work out for a reason so learn from whatever that reason was and find happiness.

Answer 9

I totally understand how you feel. It happens to be once, and now again.

i broke up with my first ex many years ago. I took 2 years to get over him.

2 weeks ago, another guy whom i was with for a year and a half broke up with me. I love him more than loving my first ex. Now im so scared that it will takes me more than 2 years to get over him. I just can't go on living, but just holding onto the past, the happy memories.. When i get up everyday, thousands of images of our past appear in my mind. It's really really horrible and making me crazy.

I dont know how to help u coz i can't even help myself. But i just wanna let u know that u're not alone to have this feeling. I hope that time heals (even im not sure), but just try.... maybe try to imagine that he has a new gf,.... try to list out his bad things.... try to think that he doesnt deserve your love.... anyway i'm with u.:) let's try to get over them.

Answer 10

Dear Zany, I've been divorced for exactly three years now. Althought its very difficult being alone, I'm much better off without my ex. I never think about my ex, dont miss him one bit, however I'm so lonely and I'm down often like yourself. Probably for the both of us, we'll feel so much better when we find someone to fill our void. Good luck hun!