I have been with my bf for 1 1/2 years. We have 4 kids(his,mine and ours.) We are going to get married next year. I really love him and he is so good to me and the kids, but I have a man from the past that I cant let go of. I think about him all the time, I know he and I would never be together, only chemistry we had was in bed!! but why do I think about him when I love my bf. My bf doesnt give it up enuf and I tell him I need it more, i know hes not cheating for a fact. Am I wrong to think about this other guy?
2007-03-08 02:37:56 · 18 answers · asked by brandi_mrrw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 28, my bf is 29. I still talk to the ex occasionally.
2007-03-08 02:41:26 · update #1
You think about him and want him because you can't have him. Keep yourself busy and just stop thinking about the other guy!!
2007-03-08 02:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you need to come clean with your bf before you get married. These feelings for this previous guy will eventually come up again down the road and end your marriage. You need to either find some sort of closure with your past or move on. Either way do not get married until all of this is resolved. It may be hard but you do not want to waste two or three years of your life wondering what if and then end up divorced anyways.
2007-03-08 02:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say in a way youre mentally cheating. Also if you let your feelings for this guy linger you rin the risk of when you have tough times with your bf (and we all have tough times) that you may be tempted to find greener pastures. You need to find a way to get closure wiht the guy you are thinking about. And instead of thinking about the great times inbed you had with that guy, remind yourself of all the crappy things about him, all the reasons why you know you shouldnt be with him. As far as not getting enough action at home...get some marital aids as it were and take care of buisness yourself. Or talk to your bf about what you could do to spice up your sex life.
2007-03-08 02:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for everyone to fantasise about past lovers and to sometimes kinda want to hook up with them once in a while ..it's what we do with those feelings that define the kind of person we are.You have a man that is willing to marry you even though you have a kid from another man ..i can tell you that is a rare trate in most men these days..I know you also have children with him and he has one also ..he may not give it up so much because me may be tiered from working trying to provide for all these hungry mouths..if you want to get him to give it up more then just take it..i don't know a man on this earth that would refuse his wifes advances..especially if she came at him on her knees.....have fun.
2007-03-08 02:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When you play with your old boyfriend in your head, it is a form of pornography. Your present man cannot live up to the fantasy. And give the guy a break. He has the stress of caring for five people. Love and respect him, see if you can make his day easier, and let the sex happen. Demanding it from a guy never, never works.
2007-03-08 02:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong now that your in another relationship but it's probably happening because your boyfriend isn't giving it up enough so you tend to go back to the bedroom in your mine with the person you clicked with sexually and i know all about this too well. You need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him that your cup isn't running over and you would like for him to start putting more in it so you don't get thirsty! Good Luck!
2007-03-08 02:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it not wrong to think about other guy... the more you think of your ex the more you not happy with your bf in bed... I think that you need to talk to him about this and how you want it and how to make it better in bed... and That how I felt when I notice my wife not happy and I asked her what can I do to make it better and she show me and I have learned alot and that why It was fun to learn what my wife like to do... and I always think about my wife than any other women I dated. or GF or one ex wife.. she is the best of all and We have 3 kids and nothing ever think about our ex. same with her...
Really, you should talk to him about how you feel and if you don't talk to him about how to do better or best in bed then you have a plm not communcate with him.... So, get in there and tell him and show him how... and believe me the more you do things the better or best that he will enjoy... I never make the first move until my wife taugh me how to make first move how to do this and how she like it and stuff like that... Again if you thinking about your ex... and not happy in bed and not saying to him.. then that the plm... you need to step back and see what wrong in bed what does me or him doing wrong??? find the plm and fix the plm... If you plan to get married I think you should have a long talk with him and how to do thing better.... If you were my wife and you told me the plm believe me and I will try work hard to make you happy... smiling. I hope that you are getting this answer this time.
2007-03-08 02:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 21:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no Its called lust you have a high sex drive and the only person that has satisfied you sexually is this past guy and you cant seem to get him off your mind but its gonna cause problems sooner or later.
2007-03-08 02:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dee Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it sounds to me like your hormones are raging and the only reason your thinking about this other guy is because your not getting sex enough from the current bf. Explain to him that you need to have sex more often and if he doesn't oblige you then maybe ask him to get you "something" to take care of yourself. I am sure if your sexual needs, and yes they are needs, are properly handled then you will find you have no reason to think about this other guy.
2007-03-08 02:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all do it but understand that hes just a memory and that if you're really happy with your soon to be then let it float on. Spice up things more than usual if you feel like you're not getting enough sex from him.
2007-03-08 02:52:34 · answer #11 · answered by canice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋