I've completely clicked with this guy that I've known for about 6 months. We are both divorced. He has two kids and I have three. We get along great together, but we're both afraid of commitment. We can't even seem to get to a date because we're both so busy. We work in the same place, but not together; we're lucky if we get to see each other for ten minutes out of eight hours. Should we go for it, or just leave it be?
2007-03-08 02:28:48 · 17 answers · asked by pixie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for it
2007-03-08 02:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are both afraid of commitments but seem to want a relationship...for whatever reason. Few points I would want to raise:
1. If you are both too busy to set aside time to have a date, how can you ever have a relationship? That alone is a commitment and you seemed to flunk in that aspect.
2. Parenthood is a commitment and so as being in a relationship. If you can't handle both, then choose one. But you'll never know that until you give it a try. Some things arent as complicated as they seem . Or sometimes they are and even more.
3. Yours is definitely not an easy position to be had. Even if you click and eventually decide on bringing the relationship to the next level, the issue on the kids warrants a greater challenge. How to bring them to together is a tough one.
4. Listen to yourself intently. The answer entirely depends on your readiness and the situation you are in, which we only have a glimpse of.
But given the tiny details, I think you should wait when you are 'prepared' and 'willing' and the situation is more permissive.
2007-03-08 03:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Inquisitive_Mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should go for it! If you guys get along together, why not? It's not like you both want to get married right this second, you know? Get together and find out more about each other =) and if things don't work out; luckily you won't have to see each other since you're both busy and work in different areas.
2007-03-08 02:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't work together then I do not see how it could have any reprocussions in the workplace. Just maybe set aside a day to get to hang out. Make it a day with all of your kids if you have to, like going to the zoo or lazer tag or something.
2007-03-08 02:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance and see where it leads. I have 2 friends exactly in your same shoes same situation and they got married last year.
2007-03-08 02:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it. If it is this early on and you can't make time to see each other, it's not going to get any better.
2007-03-08 02:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. It is very hard for anyone to find domeone they click with. go for it but make sure you just take it one step at a time.
2007-03-08 02:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be until the kids are grown and out of the house.
2007-03-08 02:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by bpgveg14 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it. It is hard for single parents to meet someone special.
2007-03-08 02:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by JLEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing is to remain mates with the guy. & see where it takes you 2
Good Luck
:)
2007-03-08 02:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.
If it's what you both want, you can make it work.
2007-03-08 02:31:23 · answer #11 · answered by chimpus_incompetus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋