We get along just fine--I love her mind, personality, how she looks physically--but when we have sex, I am unable to acheieve orgasm. I had this same problem with a woman I was involved with a few years ago. But when I've had flings with women that I didn't love/care about, I had no problem having an orgasm. What is the problem? Please help.
2007-03-08 02:28:13 · 3 answers · asked by Madly In Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should probably seek counseling.
It sounds like you are associating sex with something else and it would behoove you to look into whatever it is.
Best of luck.
2007-03-08 02:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by spamovision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is not her, it is you...you have emotional/attachment issues that you need to sort out, which could likely be achieved by short-term therapy with a good therapist.
It sounds like you are afraid of true emotional intimacy, likely from being rejected by a significant person in your past, so you can't experience the emotional release with someone you are attached to, but feel ok to do it with just "a fling" because nothing more is expected of you or the relationship.
2007-03-08 10:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I could help but I've never known a guy that could not get there . . . actually just the opposite! I'd have to say you're holding back for some reason - but I'd be at a loss to guess why.
2007-03-08 10:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋