life. She has behavioral problems. My stepmother works so she asked me to check in on my sister. This was an opportunity to get her to do her homework and start being nice by taking away responsibilities (such as late bedtime, tv and phone). She did fine for about 2 weeks, but I was always the one with the stress. THEN someone enlightened me and told me that I shouldn't be the one doing this, it is her mothers responsibility.Told me to try and motivate her by saying things like "if you dont do your homework, you could get left back. That is your decision". I tried that and she still didnt do her homework. She said that she doesnt care, so last night I went back to the old method of removing responsibilities. She usually responds to that, but this time, no matter what I took away, she just sat there and said she didnt care. I told her your on your own and left. I called her mother at work and told her that I could not take care of her anymore. I feel horrible, but was I wrong?
2007-03-08 02:23:26 · 6 answers · asked by B 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, you are not wrong you are too nice. Your step mom is trying to put her responsibilities on you. This child's behavior did not start now this is the result of an on going problem. You are not going to wave a magic wand and fix this. Take care of yourself it is not selfish your sister needs more help then you can give her mother should be contacting her counselors at school for help as they are able to do more for her then you can.
2007-03-08 02:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were wrong, I think you are feeling guilty because you feel like you let your stepmother down but you didn't. You have a husband that you need to take care of and if your sister does not listen and refuses to do the things that are required of her than you did your best. Don't beat yourself up. If your stepmother wants you to just check on her to make sure she is alright than that is a different story tell her you will be glad to drive by there but you will not be responsibly for your sisters behavior. You don't need the stress.
2007-03-08 10:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your weren't wrong. Making sure your sister gets her homework done as well as other things are her mom's responsiblies, not yours. I understand that she is your sister, but you can't be the one that is raising her. You have a life of your own now. Her mom needs to understand this. Good Luck.
2007-03-08 11:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. You have a life and you have responsibilities hat are pushed on you that should not be. You are an adult and can make the own choice as to weather you want to take some one in and care for them. I wouldn't in this case.
2007-03-08 10:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by tisdale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't wrong...it isn't your job!!! If she's not going to at least meet you half way, then don't go the distance at all!!!
2007-03-08 10:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong, she is not your child to take care of.
2007-03-08 10:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋