I am being rushed by my dad at my chores, this morning he keeps on lecturing me and i do not like it. When i woke up he asked me that did i washed my face? I said yes then i said actualy not really then he starts to give me a hard time.
How can i avoid being around him?
I feel like that i need to RUNAWAY!!
He keeps on pressuring me
He keeps on givingg me more stress
How can i deal with this?
2007-03-08 02:12:47 · 9 answers · asked by Sewer Tank 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Seriously, if someone asking whether or not you washed your face is your biggest problem, I think you've got it pretty easy. Why don't you ask your father for a list of chores? That way you will know what is expected of you each day. Maybe you could try a dry erase board on the fridge. You can just check off things as you do them, and your dad could look at that and know what's done and what isn't.
2007-03-08 02:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just do what he asks, and be truthful?
If you had gotten up, threw some water on your face and then faced your dad without the crud in your eyes, then he wouldn't have asked you if you washed your face...
Think about this, it is your parents job to prepare you to live in our society. If you see someone walking down the street with crud sticking to his eyes, hair standing on end like he hasn't washed his hair or taken a shower in days, stains all over his shirt, pants shredded at the bottom sitting on a park bench in the middle of a workday, what would you think?
Your dad wants you to look like you care about yourself, and being asked to do chores prepares you for when you have a job and they ask you to clean the toilet or mop the floor...and when that isn't done, are you going to lie to your employer and say you did when you didn't?
Your dad may just lecture you, but in the real world you would be fired, and if you keep getting fired then pretty soon no-one will hire you, then you could become jobless, then later possibly homeless...
...and running away is not going to solve anything. How are you going to eat? Where would you sleep? How are you going to survive? Most runaways end up dead or as prostitues. Do some internet searches of missing teens...there are more than you can count. There have been countless specials done by news organizations about runaways and how they live.
I do understand what you're going through. My mom used to beat us, call us names, lecture us going on and on and on...I thought she would never stop. I used to even be able to tune her out...I would hear nothing and would just see her mouth moving, then she would stop and ask me if I was listening...my grades were never good enough either. If I got a B, then she would write on my report card "you can do better than this"...I never got a "good job" ever...If I cleaned up in 15 minutes, the next time it had to be 10 minutes...I couldn't use a mop to clean the floors either, I had to do it Cinderella style on hands and knees...
...but one thing I learned was to work hard. Every job I've had, I worked hard and have never been fired. Compared to my mom, everything else is gravy...even the Army. Basic training was a snap...compared to my mom, the Drill Sergeants were amateurs when it came to psychological games. It was even kind of funny, because they were trying to break me down and never figured out how to do it...my mom made me tough.
It's all about the big picture. Take the lessons you learn at home. It will translate into your life later. You will survive...just remember what it felt like, then you won't do it to your kids.
2007-03-08 02:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone whose nagging parent died at the end of my senior year, I can tell you that you have to appreciate your parents and all the things that they do. You have to realize that they only nag you because, believe it or not, admit it or not, they know what's best for you. Your dad has years of experience on you, and while it may drive you nuts now, you'll appreciate it in a few short years. When you're out on your own, you'll probably find it easier to take care of yourself because of the very things your dad does that make you crazy now. So instead of dwelling on the things he does, try considering WHY he does them, and don't take that for granted.
Now, as a mother of 3 boys, I can say it's so not easy being a parent (and I definitely find it harder than being a teenager), and the greatest feeling in the world as a parent (and the one that will most likely make a parent ease up on the negatives) is knowing that your efforts and sacrifices are genuinely appreciated.
Talk to your dad, one on one, just talking, and tell him all the things you're thankful for in him. Once you've gone through all of those things in detail, talk to him about the things you're finding difficult to deal with and tell him you need his help to solve the problem. Chances are, he'll have the perfect solution, and he'll also respect you for putting that much thought into the situation between the two of you.
2007-03-08 02:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your stress. I'm a mom and sometimes I am guilty of the same type of thing. Maybe you can talk to him about him giving you a hard time when you are getting along or at least are not in the middle of a conflict. Tell him what are going to try to do to make changes to meet his needs(what he wants you to do) and ask him to do some things to support you while you are trying to rather that degrading or discouraging you. Tell him you need his help, love and support to accomplish these goals. Ask him for help. Maybe if he looks at the situation this way he will have a more supportive attitude. I ask my kids to help me be a good parent by telling me what they need me to do to help them. I also ask them to accept my apology when I make mistakes. Hopefully your dad will try harder to help you. Be ready to fully accept his apology if he does. Good luck. It is just as hard to be a good parent as it is to be a good child. Try to understand his struggle too.
2007-03-08 02:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIDO with Kerfitz and gem. Also, even though you think you are stressed out, your stress is nothing compared to your dad's, so try to cooperate with him rather than keeping him away from you. What you are going through is just a growing pain, you are trying to learn to be independent, show him that you are. You will gain more. And remember, there is no one in this world who is perfect, including your dad and yourself. Give him and yourself a slack. Remember, he loves you.
2007-03-08 02:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but....I have to remind my 14 Yo to do things constantly, why did you lie to your father? just say no and go do it, and try to remember next time...you will be surprised. if you start to remember to do the things that are expected of you then you won't be "pressured" and will actully be allowed to do more. You need to show that you are responsible enough to do what you need to, and then they will not need to remind you. What they are pressuring you about isn't because they like to, they are trying to make you understand that YOU need to start taking care of yourself. (because they love you and wnat you to be the best person you can be)
2007-03-08 02:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest do your chores when you are supposed to and start becoming more responsible and you will surprised how much your Dad will back off.
2007-03-08 02:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's what is called 'overparenting',,,,if you don't know enough to wash your face, go to school dirty....you, just ignore him, say uh,huh, and walk away....don't let him get you down...
2007-03-08 02:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
got the same prob, just clench your teeth and get thru it!
2007-03-08 06:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋