People say the best way to get over a girl is find another one, but really is it fair to the new girl if?

Question

still thinking about the 1st one?

Answer 1

Well, like everyone else has said, it's not fair to either of you. It's not fair to have her there but wish she was some one else. It also probably doesn't seem fair that you can't stop thinking about your ex girlfriend no matter how much you wish you could. Time heals, but it won't make you forget. You probably are a better person because of the things you went through with your ex. You learn from life's experiences, but it doesn't meant that they won't hurt you in the process. I know first hand how it feels to have someone you care about break your heart. But the answer to getting over that is not to go jump into a relationship with another person. You need to be ready for that. If you are like me, part of the problem is that you forgot how to be yourself with out the other person. You need to take the time to learn how to be by yourself again. You have to remember what it's like to be you, not you and whoever, just you. You see, you can't be good for someone else, until you are healthy for yourself. There is not time frame as to how long it will take for you to be ready again. That depends on you. The dating world is harsh, and it's not easy to put your self back out there and be vulnerable again. If I may give you a peice of advice, do things for no one else but you for a while. Surround yourself with good friends, and have a good time. Before too long, you will find it getting easier, and you will be truly ready before you know it.

Answer 2

Whoever said that is an idiot. Rebound relationships don't work out well and in the end one or both parties get hurt even more. It is better to work things out first before moving on to the next relationship. Get rid of the baggage so to speak. And yes, it's not fair to the new girl. How would you like it if a girl treats you that same way - as someone to use to get over someone else especially when you're still thinking of your ex?

Answer 3

I don't believe that motto at all. The new girl your dating could end up being your rebound. If the new girl has feelings for you, then she gets hurt and turns someone else into a rebound from you. I say take the time to heal and contemplate things a little. If your still thinking about the other girl. take it slow in the dating world, just tell the girls you want to be friends only or don't date for awhile. In time you will get over her, but I don't believe getting someone else helps you forget another person.

Answer 4

I was a rebound relationship once, so i say NO! The best way to get over someone is to have some YOU time. Do the things you love, enjoy your freedom to come and go as you please without having to answer to anyone, hang out with your friends, etc. Basically take the time between relationships to work on the most important relationship you will ever have, the one with YOURSELF.Then when you finally heal and feel it's time to move on, walk back in slowly. There'd be less chance of you getting hurt or hurting anyone else.

Answer 5

Jumping into a rebound relationship is never good. It’s not fair to you nor the person that you’re with. You need to take time off in between relationships to be sure that you are over the previous person. You’re going to end up hurting the person that you’re with trying to get over the last person. You’re hurting yourself as well, you’re not getting all that you can out of the new relationship because your mind is still on what you had in the past that you no longer have. If you really feel that you want to be with the previous girl you need to think about what caused you to break up and work on trying to correct it. You won’t have a good relationship with the old relationship until you work on whatever the cause of the break was. If you want to be with the new person then you need to focus on letting go of your past. It’s just that your past, leave it where it is…in the past. Look at your past a lesson that you had to learn, whatever caused you to break up don’t make that mistake in your new relationship. For right now, you need to be honest with the person that you’re with. Let her know that you have a lot on your mind and in order to be fair to her you need to take the relationship slow. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

No it's not fair because she'll be just a rebound chick. The only way to get over someone is to become okay with being alone and not having that person in your life. When you are content with being alone then you will be ready to move into a new relationship.

Answer 7

No it's honestly not fair and before jumping into another relationship one should take time and make sure that they have there feelings for the ex completely thought out and that they are not dwelling on that person any longer. They have had this saying around for years and honestly I totally disagree with it. Time heals all, even broken relationships.

Answer 8

NO ITS NOT FAIR TO EITHER OF YOU!!! YOU HAVE TO HEAL FIRST AND UNFORTUANTELY THERE IS NO EASY WAY OF DOING THAT. IF YOU LOVED HER YOU ALWAYS WILL! THANKFULLY TIME HEALS THE PAIN AND YOU CAN LOVE AGAIN. FEEL FREE TO GO OUT AND HAVE FUN THOUGH WITH GIRLS AND GUYS ALIKE. JUST MAKE SURE THE GIRL KNOWS HOW YOU STILL FEEL BOUT YOUR EX AND THAT YOU LUV'D HER. AND IF SHES WORTH YOUR TIME SHE'LL UNDERSTAND AND STILL WANT TO BE AROUND YOU IF NOT SHE WONT. YOU DONT HAVE TO POUR YOUR SOUL OUT, JUST WARN THE GIRL IN SOME WAY THAT YOU WANT A NEW REALTIONSHIP, ITS JUST THAT YOU ARENT READY. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP THINGS WONT BE LIKE THIS FOR TOO MUCH LONGER IF YOUR HONEST ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS TO YOURSELF AND LET YOURSELF HEAL EMOTIONALLY. KEEP YA HEAD UP! IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER.!!:)

Answer 9

they call that a "rebound relationship." You might like the new girl better. I am in the same situation as you man. It sucks and i am depressed, almost to the point where i cant even get up and do the necessary daily activities.

Answer 10

Honestly nope but more importantly it's not fair to you. Give yourself some time to get over the old relationship so you can enjoy the next one.