my hubby found out i cheated. he has cheated too. and her kids might be his. but he won't even look at me. what should i do. i love my hubby. i did it to make me feel better about myself. he puts me down and the other guy makes me feel special
2007-03-08 01:59:20 · 27 answers · asked by lisaanndubay 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shoudl tell him that ...if he wont listen... don't push it ...
write him a letter or somethng and leave it to him to read when you are off at work or out....
and advice ...stop seeing the other guy ..and don't praise him too much... and also tell him how you also felt hurt when he cheated on you but tha tyou forgave him you know?
I have never been in this situation but almost...so i know just a bit...
but i wish you the best!
2007-03-08 02:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If other guys make you feel more special than your hubby than i have one word for you that starts with a D! It sounds horrible...but if you're not happy it must be done! Cheating is not healthy for a marriage or relationship. Especially to make you feel better! I would feel horrible if I did that to my man! Any man that loves you should never put you down! He should love every part of you, inside and out. He should make you feel like the most special girl in the world! Does he? If you answered no..its time for it to come to an end....Move on with your life. Find a guy that will appreciate you, and never take any mans ****! You deserve only the best, and dont settle for less! Sure no one is perfect...but someone can come pretty damn close! Good luck! Lifes too short, dont waste any time... Learn from your experiences, but live with no regrets!
2007-03-08 02:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make it right, so you should have been the better person and just kicked his sorry a** to the curb when he did it because you forgave him for what he did or you still wouldn't be with him so now you see how different it is when a woman cheats on a man because a man thinks he can have his cake and eat it 2 as it was in this case.Go try counsling.One more thing neither one of you loved each other if you did you would have kept you marriage vows to Love and Honor
2007-03-08 02:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what happen to the marriage vows, remember what the preacher man said to you and your man?? That is what the problem with ppl nowdays they don't listen very well and hate to say this you an him both cheated. There is no love there at all hate to say this to you hun? Also you say, the other guys make you feel special that is total wrong there it should be your husband make you feel special and you should made him feel special not the strangers. Take advice if yall two can work this out great if not go separate ways and good luck in y'all future.
2007-03-08 02:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by david c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you and your husband need to seriously talk. He has cheated on you so he can't really write you off for just following his bad example. But I mean he will be upset of course. But the point is honesty is the answer here. You have to talk to him and if you want to work things out then you both need to stop cheating and start to be more committed in your marriage. Maybe you guys can go seek help from a professional or something if you need to. But if you want to stay with your husband then both of you need to work together to fix what ever problems lead you guys to go astray. If you want the other guy you mentioned then you still need to be honest with your husband cause that is only fair. So I think you should take some serious time out to think about what you really want and what is right for you. Any one on here can tell you what they think and what their opinion is but in the end you have to be the one who makes the decision here. And only you know what is right for you. So think about it and do what has to be done. Good luck!
2007-03-08 02:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her puts you down you should not just go and sleep with someone to make you feel good. If you truly love him you would not want to do that to him. Just because he cheated also does not make it right. You seem like you are in a bad situation. I would try to see someone for counceling or something
good luck let me know if you need someone to chat with that helps me a lot when i have problems. Just a random person that you never met can sometimes help
2007-03-08 02:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by D R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman to Woman Let me tell you, I think that they are his kids and that he probably has cheated on you with many others, don't settle no matter how late it is in the relationship. I would definitely start to explore other options, you don't have to sleep with other men to feel good about yourself, love yourself first and foremost and the next guy that comes into your life would see and adore your confidence, as well as greatly appreciate you and Make you Feel Special!!W
2007-03-08 02:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are in a happy relationship do not cheat. If you have both cheated on each other, why are you still together? Obviously, there is something lacking in the relationship, or neither of you would feel the need to look elsewhere...
2007-03-08 02:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Paula S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're both wrong for each other & staying in such a destructive relationship will only destroy your self esteem further. Being unfaithful was wrong and neither of you did the right thing. Leave and find someone more suitable for you who treats you with respect & does not make you feel inferior or put you down.
2007-03-08 02:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you two obviously have major issues and all trust is gone so you might a well walk away now and hopefully learn from your mistakes. Just because someone else screws up doesnt mean you have too. If you wanted out and you didn't like the way he treated you, you should have left not waited for someone else to come along.
2007-03-08 02:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by elephantfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋