I'm 26 and very rarely approached by men. I have been told that I'm cute and dress well. I am intelligent and have a sense of humor. Also a big sports fan. Usually when I'm out with friends I am having a good time so its not like I am acting like a b****. What is going on? I don't have a problem approaching them. Its just nice to have them come to you sometimes. I don't have a problem with being single. I'm not desperate. Its just sometimes I would like to have someone instead of the same disappointments.
2007-03-08 01:56:09 · 20 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's becoming more and more rare for men to approach women directly. Blame online dating.
2007-03-08 01:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm from California but now live in Texas. I think it's the men here. I had no problem with guys coming up to me in California. It's a different story here. I think a big part of it is that these men are insecure and are intimidated by a beautiful woman. So if you're very pretty, that could be the problem. They may be perceiving you as stuck up even though you're not. There is a stigma attached to attractive women. "Oh, she's pretty, she must be a b****." You might buy a T-shirt which says, "I'm not a b****, please approach me." haha. I'm afraid there's not much you can do except just smile and be pleasant. I do believe in fate so when the right one comes along, he'll come up to you easily. Good luck.
2007-03-08 10:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Gayle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-08 10:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a lot going for you. The only thing that I can think of is...check your body language. If your body language says you're not receptive....you are less likely to be approached. When you are out make sure that you give off signals that you enjoy life...Check out the site referenced below. Maybe it will give some clues. I could be way off base, but I can't think of another reason why you rarely get approached.
2007-03-08 10:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body language or your expressions are sending out signals that men don't find inviting. It may have something to do with the friends you surround yourself with or the clothes you wear as well, but more likely it's the way you come off; aloof or arrogant, superior or just not interested. If it were just a set of men that found you attractive and not men in general, I'd say you didn't present a viable target. But you said NONE by your intro, which tells me it's you!
2007-03-08 10:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be some of your assets work against you.
Men are very primal in thought.
Hungry -eat
Horny-sex
Sports-hoo-rah
We are also afraid of rejection. For a lot of men you're perfect and therefore may seem unattainable.
Stress more femininity and a warm smile. The fact that you like sports is icing on the cake for most guys (not me) but this is after they see you as a woman. If it's out there first, you may be seen as one of the guys.
Good hunting
2007-03-08 10:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are always around your Friends or in groups most men will not walk up to you. Go a few places on your own Coffee house, book store etc. and I am sure someone will feel more at ease to walk up to you alone rather then with a audience.
2007-03-08 10:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men don't approach cute women because the standard answer is get lost. So they figure the is no reason to try.
2007-03-08 10:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THere is nothing wrongw ith you...don't think like that....
You can't put yourself down..b/c people will see that.. you have to feel confident...
Some guys like women to approach more..others don't ...and you have to remember that every guy is diffrent...Also you have to where you are going to meet guys...depending where you are going to have fun isn't a good place to meet guys that are going to want to be in a serious relationship...wish you the best
2007-03-08 10:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might be intimidating to men. A lot of guys are scared off by smart, attractive women because they are so insecure with themselves. Just continue to be yourself and the right guy will come along.
2007-03-08 09:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋