My boyfriend and I were doing great then we started arguing all the time til the point we actually broke up twice (it was for only a few hours each time). Through all of this he fell out of love but wanted to stay together because he still cared for me. During this time I never fell out of love even though it was hard. The other night I asked him was he back in love because for the past month it has been wonderful and he said no but he was getting there if we just keep working togther as a team. He told me he would let me know when he made it to that point. Here's my problem though when I heard him say he wasn't I got sad and now it is hard for me to have intercourse with him and I don't know how to tell him that without hurting him. How long should I wait for him to be back in love? I want my feelings fully returned also.
2007-03-08 01:55:04 · 7 answers · asked by JELLE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really feel that way, I think you should tell him that he has no business having sex with you if he is not in love with you. If he continues the relationship at that point.....you two may find your way back into each other's hearts. Good Luck
2007-03-08 01:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I at this point am actually able to identify with the both of you. i have lost a lot of the love I feel for my baby's father and because i have lost that love, i really am not in the mood to be intimate with him. As a matter of fact it's really a turn off whe he tries to approach me that way. I get disgusted.. At the same time I identify with your boyfriend, becuse although i no longer love him like i used to, for the sake of the baby i'm trying to find in him what it is I loved about him to begin with. Unfortunately as the days go by, my realization that I won't get that back is apparent. he can't accept the fact that we will not be together, because honestly, when you lose love for someone, rarely does it come back to its full force that it was. My personality is just when I move ahead or lose something for someone, it really is gone. I don't look back so I guess give your boyfriend some time. it may be a while depending on the type of person he is. As for you not wanting to be intimate.. please tell him. Because I almost feel like I'm being sexually assaulted at some point.. to feel like your being raped is not a good feeling and that's what I felt like before i told him how I feel. Please do so. save yourself some pain. and then you may need to rethink your relationship. I was in a relationship in the past where we would break up to make up, and it eventually fell apart because we realized or should I say I realized we were just getting back together because of the security of knowing that you had that person to go back to.. even if you didn't need to go back to them, the years had us settling for each other, rather than wanting to be with each other. Ask yourself at this point are you SETTLING for him and he for you do to just the comfort in knowing u can run back to each other or do you need to move on to better?
2007-03-08 11:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant plan to fall back in love just like you dont plan to fall in live. you are either in love or you or not. and a couple of breakups cant make you fall out of love either. i think you need to tell him because if you feel uncomfortable or used at all you are only hurting yourself. also make sure you are not giving your all to someone who isnt going to give their all to you. follow your instincts good luck
2007-03-08 10:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try as much as possible to control your heart. Just consider that you don't have anybody like him. I think he should know that you love him and by so doing he is hurting and coursing pain in your heart.
2007-03-08 10:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control your feelings and there is really nothing you can do aside from manipulation to make him fall back in love with you.
2007-03-08 10:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its possible for someone to fall out of love.. if u love somone ull love thm no matter wat thy do or how thy treat u.. nd if ur finding it difficult to have intercourse with him thn u just shouldnt be together.. there are other fish in the sea.. meet new people nd have enjoy urself.. love nd relationships should not be a burden.. i think u should go seperate ways..
2007-03-08 10:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo-hoo, so sad...Good times!!!
2007-03-08 09:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋