My boyfriend of 4 years just turned 21..i am only 17...he has been getting drunk all the time and staying up all night...not going to sleep till i go to school...All he wants to do is get drunk and party with his friends...me and him have seen eachother every single day for the past 4 years...should i give him some space..?? how can i tell him i am worried that something is going to happen to him?
And one more thing he never wants to talk about our future...i am going to be gradutating in june...and my parent want me out in june...and i need some where to go...should he be more involved with our future or am i just going crazy over nothing...
2007-03-08 01:51:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are very young to be in a 4 year relationship and be worried about commiting yourself to someone so into partying. My advice is to focus on yourself right now. Don't ditch him, you obviously love him or you wouldn't be with him for 4 years. Don't make yourself dependent on him for your future. Work on yourself before you have children and it is more difficult. Go to college , get a job, get your own place (if possible). Work for your future. When he sees that you are going places with or without him , he will make the appropriate changes, if he loves you.
2007-03-08 02:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by krysmaslily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key word: 21. When one turns 21, all you want to do is hang out with friends and party. Seriously. It's legal now and that's when one takes advantage of that situation. You both are still very young to really think about marriage. Don't make the mistake of moving in together because you don't have a place to stay, you know what I mean? I say this because responsibilities won't be shared and you and he will have different ideas on how things should be and adding his friends and partying to the mix are a recipe for disaster. I've been through this which is how I know =) Good luck!!!
2007-03-08 09:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be more involved in your future unless he doesn't plan on having a future with you since he's always partying and getting drunk and who knows if he doesn't go home with other females because when your drunk you get horny and don't really think about your actions until after it has happened and I don't think you should be with someone as wild as he is especially if you want to go to college. You don't need that kind of stress at this age when you have more important things to think about.
2007-03-08 09:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going crazy over something and that something is the right thing to think about. You seem to be the only one in the relationship with common sense. Start planning your future, and if he's not interested, move on and find someone better. You are right about worrying for him for his behaviour is less than responsible or safe. Tell him nicely & if he behaves badly, well, you can only do so much. Good luck and keep that solid head on your shoulders.
2007-03-08 09:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After four years together, he should be involved in your future and he should be concerned about what will happen to you come June. But don't move in with him just because you have nowhere else to go. Get a job and start saving money to get your own place. Depend only on yourself because it seems you really can't depend on him or your parents. Good luck.
2007-03-08 10:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 21 and now he can drink alcohol legally.
You are way too young.
Get an apartment with a girl roommate and give this guy some big space.
Your future should be about you and not worrying about some drunk jerk. Let him do his thing and you do yours.
2007-03-08 09:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Keenu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve a man that will work and take care of you. If he won't discuss your future then he doesn't plan on having one. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't fix it then get a job, save some $, and be ready to get a place of your own in June. Maybe one (or more) of your friends from school would be interested in being room mates?
2007-03-08 09:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from him! He obviously has no future if all he wants to do is drink. He needs help but doesn't seem willing to get any. All he is going to do is drag you down with him. Get out while you are still young and have a future.
2007-03-08 09:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are to have boyfriend of 4 yrs. By the way how ur boyfriend suddenly turned to 21, when he was just 4. You must be crazy genius
2007-03-08 09:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Forest Breeze 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are looking for "somewhere or some one to do go in june".he is obviously too buisy having fun.after graduation, continue on to college.there are dorms there for you.never depend on anyone and much less a man.be independant!its the best thing you can do for yourself i promise.good luck
2007-03-08 09:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by fishin for answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋