it gets better for a few days, then its back to the same thing. Im 28, hes 29, we have 4 kids between the 2 of us(mine, his and ours.) I know he isnt fooling around. I also know he loves me and I love him. How do I deal with this, I have teased about going out and getting some, he jokes he wouldnt care but seriously........
2007-03-08 01:37:37 · 15 answers · asked by brandi_mrrw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been together for 1 1/2 years
2007-03-08 01:44:10 · update #1
I cant have any more kids, so its not th e fear of having more. lol
2007-03-08 02:23:29 · update #2
Why not try getting away for a few days alone? I can only imagine how uninterested I might be in sex with four kids running around and the threat of being interrupted at any moment would be a downer. A nice weekend away might recharge both of your batteries.
2007-03-08 01:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Consider that you are reaching your sexual peak and he may not be able to keep up. His peak was about 10 years ago (well, statistically anyway. My guy is 34 and just as much a nympho as me..lol)
Seriously, though. There may be other issues. Have you ever actually just sat down with him and asked what the deal is, in a non-judgemental way? Maybe with work and 4 kids he just feels tired and wants to relax without the pressure of pleasing you. If you back off, it will give him the opportunity to come on to you when he wants to.
If he's just bored w/ the sex, then like some other people have suggested, get some toys, games, etc and make it fun. Get a babysitter every now and then and have romantic nights together.....not every one of them involving sex (again, so he doesn't feel pressured to please you). Just enjoy each other's company once again without the stressors of children, and the desire may return.
Hell, maybe he's just afraid of having any more kids!! ;-)
2007-03-08 02:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by kdfirekat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is having self confidence issues, that could be the case. I am only 18 but I have read alot of things on this topic. Around the age of 30 some males (not all, but some) begin to feel like they are "losing themselves" as they age. In most cases. Just tell him that you still love him, reassure him that he is the only man you will only love. The joking about going out and getting some might make him feel that he is right and he isn't as good as he use to be. Also, any significant changes in his life could affect this as well
2007-03-08 01:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by semiphez1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds pretty boring. Try bringing in some toys or buy a wig and become a new person. Maybe you can get a babysitter and have a "honeymoon" weekend. I hope something can brign some spice back into your life.
2007-03-08 01:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop lookin' at it as Sex. It's suppose to be "Making Love". If you BOTH approach it thusly? You find that the Quality is more than make up for the quanity. Good Luck, to the Both of ya! It's nice to be In Love!
2007-03-08 01:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the man needs time to recharge!j/k it sounds like maybe ur not turning him on enough.loving each other isnt good enough.tease him,foreplay(that really works).a man never says no a woman giving him oral sex!now dont go over board either .do your share and if he doesnt cooperate ,then you really need to go else where!
2007-03-08 01:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by fishin for answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do the joke thing cause it can make things worse guys are a lot more sensitive then they appear so you may just want to please yourself if he isn't in the mood he just may not have a sex drive like you ust leave him alone or you could push him away
2007-03-08 01:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey its better for you to approach him seriously about this matter... it could help but if it doesnt work try to go out and have a girls nyt out maybe the answers ur looking for is just around the corner waitng for you to grab on.
2007-03-08 01:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by lefty loc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he in simple terms would not experience as while you're his soul mate. adult males could be very intense-high quality adult males and nonetheless no longer love you, and it particularly is no longer his fault. i do no longer think of he's a participant (out of your description) yet of course he does no longer experience madly in love with you, in any different case he does no longer furnish you with a warning that issues could no longer artwork out interior the destiny. He of course cares approximately you very much in any different case he does no longer care approximately your emotions getting harm, yet you be attentive to to boot as everyone does, you could experience something interior, in case you genuninely pick to be with somebody continuously. would not sound like he sounds like that.
2016-11-23 15:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His hormones may ge out of balance and a doctor would be able to find this out with tests.
2007-03-08 01:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋