i been married for 6 years & it seems that i lost hte sparks between us (my wife).......now i have 2kids and still im thinking of what would it be like if i married somebody else........for example my ex gf who is currently in canada
2007-03-08 01:34:16 · 10 answers · asked by lefty loc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A fire doesn't stay alight by itself. If the spark is gone, you let it go out. If you do not learn this then you will have the same problem over and again until you do.
Relight your fire.
Many people have arranged marriages and have true love for their spouse. Think again.
2007-03-08 01:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was there true love from the start? You state that you were forced into marriage at an early age. Could it be that you were sexually active at an early age, which caused a pregnancy, which resulted in you having to get married. Now 2 kids. Were you in love with your wife when you were making the second child? Why do you say: someone like me? What is special about you or makes your life uncertain about true love? Why not take a closer look at your children. Is it true love that they show you as their father or do they have the option to think what their lives might be like if they had someone else to fill that role. You have more soul searching to do other than the answer to this question.
2007-03-08 01:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i do not like people to break up especially when already have kids.
You can be a good guy or bad guy.
Good guy --> Try to communicate with your wife or try to find out what makes you, your wife and kids live happily. Perhaps a travel trip, or a visit to theme park. Have a candlelit dinner, or cook for her to surprise her, send her flowers, invite her to movie/concert, etc. Most of the time, people get bored after a long time spending together, and that is the time to test you and your wife. If you both could overcome the crisis, i'm sure you could live together till end of time. It's just like an exam which you would certainly face it as long as you're in this world. You might be having the same feeling if you were to be together with your ex gf for 6 years. God wants to test you.
I have a question, do you love/like your wife anyway?
Bad guy --> Follow your heart and do it! But i would feel for your kids who are innocent. Do not play with marriage for you have to be responsible to the next generation.
2007-03-08 01:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by cleoleeps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not love if you were forced to marry. If there was sparks between you try and find them again, talk openly about what you feel and maybe she is feeling the same. The solution maybe to break up and move on.
2007-03-08 01:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its common to wonder what if, but its wrong to act on those thoughts and feelings. Your married, you made a vow to your wife for better or worse and you need to make your marriage work. If you didnt want to marry her in the first place then you shouldn't have, but you chose to so now you need to learn to make each other happy.
2007-03-08 01:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL, WHAT DO U MEAN THAT U WERE FORCED INTO A MARRIAGE AT A YOUNG AGE? EVERYONE ALWAYS WONDERS WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO BE MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE.. THIS IS NORMAL. ITS CALLED A FANTASY.. AS LONG AS U DONT ACT ON IT.. AND YES, IT IS USUALLY SOMEONE THAT U PREVIOUSLY DATED OR WERE VERY SERIOUS WITH. YOU WILL ALWAYS WONDER WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE. I DO! BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT I AM IN LOVE WITH MY HUSBAND NOW, AND DO NOT REGRET GETTING MARRIED AT A YOUNG AGE. I LOVE MY HUSBAND! SOMETIMES, WHEN U HAVE KIDS INVOLVED U HAVE TO TRY AT YOUR MARRIAGE HARDER, YOUR KIDS DO TAKE UP ALOT OF TIME FROM BOTH OF U, AND ARE VERY DEMANDING ON BOTH OF YOU. RESULTING IN, NOT HAVING ENOUGH TIME FOR EACH OTHER. YOU NEED TO MAKE THE TIME!!! AND PAY ATTENTION TO EACH OTHER MORE.... AND NEVER GO TO BED MAD!! AND THE BIGGEST THING OF ALL ; IS ALWAYS TELLING EACH OTHER THAT YOU LOVE EACH OTHER!!!!! ALWAYS!!! GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-08 01:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get off it dude! Forced or not. You have a family here to think of. You made this family and owe it to your kids to be around full time for them. You owe it to your wife to love her and cherish her for the rest of your life!
This is a very selfish thing your thinking of.
2007-03-08 01:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to find out, and life is too short not to... dump your wife, go to Canada and see what happens
2007-03-08 01:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is not love. Its simply law of nature
2007-03-08 01:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Forest Breeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes thru this, maybe your wife is thinking the same thing secretly.
2007-03-08 01:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋