I know this may sound cheezy 4 a guy but im Lstening to walk away by paula deanda ryt now.This song comforts me. Me and my gf broke up lastnight after 1 year & 8 mnths.So dis is my 1st day without her in my life.It feels so weird and sad.We broke up because i felt the sudden change in her.Shes not as sweet ,thoughtful,caring and loving as before.I was doing to much and she wasn't doing enuf.When we're having a missunderstanding and it's her fault,she wouldn't bother to say sorry or comfort me.She would just let me go home so sad,demoralized and with that weird feeling in me and she wouldn't try to communicate w/me for days until i make the 1st move.She never used to be like that.I dont know how she could do that to me,maybe because i showed her 2 much LOVE.I never thought that this can happen to a guy,especially in a guy like me.(Take note) I have been Faithful to her ever since..I still dont know what to do.I just hope some day she would sing me this song.And realize all her mistkes.
2007-03-08 01:32:14 · 14 answers · asked by Marco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not cheesy, bro. I know exactly where you're coming from.
I had a woman I loved so much it hurt... I would write her songs, poetry, send her flowers every week.. Basically I smothered her! (Women think they want that treatment, but when they get it.. it scares them.. but that's another story altogether) And she would avoid and avoid.. basically she was trying desperately not to get hurt. I wonder sometimes why she went through all that.. was it another guy? Was she still in love with her ex? What was the deal?
But the bottom line is.. I'll never know why. No amount of asking or pleading can get a woman to communicate if they don't want to. And the more you pressure her to open up.. the farther she'll run.
So my suggestion, based on what you've said, is to play it cool and see what happens. If she WANTS to communicate with you and spend time with you. She will. If not, there's your answer right off the bat... Apparently something integral to the way she felt about you changed... that sucks hardcore, but that's the danger of that kind of love, bro.
If she contacts you (if she loves you, she will) play it cool.. you know her better than we do and know what buttons of hers not to push. But if you can try to get her to open up to you, that's a good thing. With the woman I was talking about.. I'd have to stay away from the subject and get into a basic conversation, get her to smile.. take her mind off the situation (because she was expecting me to ask about whatever we were arguing about) and get her defenses down.
And then.. oddly, she'd open up on her own without me having to mention a single thing.
But I know that feeling you're talking about. It's like a cold pang in your heart.. somewhere down where it meets with your soul.. it feels so badly you want to cry. You can't believe that this woman you love so much would hurt you so badly and then not see the damage she's doing to you or refuse to acknowledge or understand it. It just plain feels like she doesn't love you anymore.
Man.. I feel your pain, bro. There were times I wished I walked away. But the bright ending to this story is that I stuck it out and eventually we figured it out. She came around, we have a great relationship now and have been married for about a year.
So.. it CAN work out with a woman that suddenly becomes emotionally unavailable. There's probably something in her life she's trying to work out and won't allow herself to extend those emotions right now.
It sucks.. but you CAN work through it. WOuld I suggest it? For the woman I'm with.. yes. But in retrospect? I was stupid for hanging on when there are so many great women out there that wouldn't have put me through so much pain.
The choice is yours, my friend.
Good luck!
2007-03-08 01:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Scallawag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you have been with her for 1year and 8mths but all good things must eventually come to an end. Maybe she is not for you, or maybe she never was. Sometimes it takes a while to see the truth, nonetheless if she is really for you she will come back around and into your life. Until then I wouldn't let her consume my whole day and life, especially if she is not feeling the same way. Make room in your heart for someone else, who is willing to show you all the Love that you would show them and More!!
2007-03-08 01:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as too much love. If she was right for you she would give u all that love right back. It's really hard to walk away from a long relationship but sometimes it has to be done. It doesnt sound like you did anything wrong...maybe she just wasn't the right one
2007-03-08 01:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she fell out of love with you. It happens and it's a part of life, try not to take it personally (I know that's hard). People's feelings change and you just have to try to move on so that you can offer all the love you have to give to someone else who deserves it.
2007-03-08 01:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look my dear
The only thing you deserve is love. i have been in this situation usaully.... but i moved on i know it takes a long time to forget her but still u need a girl that loves you not a girl that makes you feel sad i am not telling you to move on straight away no i am telling you try again with her if not then as i told you move along.
My greatest wishes
Abdalla wish you to find you love.(wish me too)
2007-03-08 01:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by abdalla m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the people we love don't love us in return. When this happens, you have to drop that person and move on. It doesn't sound like this girl was really in love with you. Be man enough to accept that and get on with your life.
2007-03-08 01:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard on you i an going through something similar right now just give her some time maybe she will see she made a mistake and try to fix things at least you dont have kids
2007-03-08 01:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold out for her. She's not worth it; you deserve more. Try to move on, no matter how hard it seems. It'll hurt less in the long run.
2007-03-08 01:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by glinda2125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what thats like...all I can say is I'm sorry you're going through it, and you'll feel better soon. I've had heartbreaks, too...it sucks but it gets better, trust me :)
2007-03-08 01:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Interpreted 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at how many times you blame her....and thats in one paragraph. Whats your part in this?
2007-03-08 01:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋