2007-03-08 01:31:16 · 33 answers · asked by Lynne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a conservative, but the 'friends with benefits' scenario is not as cool as it sounds. Imagine listening to your 'buddy' or being present while he/she treats another girl/guy in the manner in which you wish he/she would treat you, such as planning special nights out, recognizing special occasions and all those other things we enjoy sharing with a member of the opposite sex. It would take a very secure person to play the role of the 'friend that offers benefits' and yet not be treated as a significant other or boyfriend/girlfriend. It's demeaning and it's as if you would be relegated to the role of someone they wouldn't want to be associated with too openly. Set the ground rules if you take this on and be sure it's what you actually want and aren't just settling for b/c you don't have other options. So, my opinion of this type of arrangement is that it's not as glamorous as it sounds. Choose wisely!!
2007-03-08 01:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Cheapens the act.
2. Risky for transmission of STDs
3. Risky for pregnancy
4. No commitments tends to turn ionto multiple "buddys", hence more "2's and #3's.
5. Potential to ruin other relationships. Once your find a real b/for g/f - it is hard to give up the buddy sex. You'll get caught.
Just my opinion. Tons of friends at school do this - they are almost never happy with it in the long run - although it looks like fun in the short term.
....damn, I need a girlfriend.
2007-03-08 01:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by Skeezix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, it never works out for us! I actually tried just having a casual relationship and it became super confusing really quick when I started really liking the guy. Now I'm dating this awesome guy that I don't know if I'm ready for because I wanted to have sex! As women, we're really just not built for a "just sex" relationship. Wait til you're over whatever is holding you back from a real relationship and masturbate in the meantime! It'll save you a world of confusion!!! :)
2007-03-08 01:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each and their own..I wouldn't want that for me...not knowing how many other "buddys" that person has been having sex with* and who their buddys have had sex with. Good way to catch something tho. Not in a good way*
If you don't want a "relationship" with someone but just a "sex buddy" ....to each and their own is all i have to say.
GoodLuck*
2007-03-08 01:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do have self assurance there's an incredible distinction between the two. I want making love with a extra physically powerful half that i'm dedicated to. there's a shared loving means, a spirit crammed connection which you get once you're making love with somebody, and it is so strongly passionate which you would be unable to help feeling enjoyed. this is making like to me. i think of that having intercourse is random human beings human beings hooking up, the place there is not any love in touch.
2016-09-30 09:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God was not a drooly on a short bus when he made the rule to wait until marriage. Sex is an awesome act between two people meant to be together for life. It is an awesome bond between two people.
If you do it without regard to a life long marriage partner, then you cheapen what was intended to be an awesome act to bring two people closer and to create awesome Godly children.
2007-03-08 01:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM OF THE OPINION THAT IT CAN BE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP!!! I HAVE ENJOYED A "SEX BUDDY" OR TWO IN MY DAY. I DON'T SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH IT. YOU JUST HAVE TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU DON'T GET ANY FEELINGS INVOLVED. IF YOU CAN DO THAT, THEN IT CAN BE A WONDERFUL THING. BUT IF YOU CAN'T, THEN IT WILL DEFINITELY BE A TRAIN WRECK.
2007-03-08 01:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just for sex? Nahhhhhhhhhhh!
2007-03-08 01:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I can't say I've never been there... However, from my experience, I've learned how emotionally unhealthy it is. You are scarring your reputation and dammaging the gift of yourself that you will someday give to your future husband. While it's fun to "live for today" and have casual relations, we also have to think ahead of how we will feel when we reflect on our past relationships. Try to live your life without any regrets. I can say that I regretted the casual relationship I had in the past, but I've forgiven myself and moved on.
2007-03-08 01:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by jlomedic2181 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all good if that is what both are looking for, if not one of you get hurt. Best thing to do is to keep it remaining as just sex. Once you go out together, feelings start occurring. If that is what your looking for, then go for it.
2007-03-08 01:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋