Well my daughter is being called cracker, white whore/*****/slut etc by these 2 black boys at her school they are also going around telling people at school she has AIDS and they said they are going to beat her up everyday. SHe came home and told me this last week and I said you need to go to the principal so they can do something about it and she did but all they did was ask them and they said they wasn't doing it and they let it go now my daughter is terrified to go to school. What can I do about this I think if it were the other way around my daughter would be in alot of trouble and people are afraid to do something to help her I don't want my daughter to start skipping school and messing up her life because of these kids.
2007-03-08 01:20:09 · 9 answers · asked by fluttergirl2004 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If I was you I would go in and talk to the principal myself. I would then ask for the boys parents to be brought in to discuss this problem. If the principal doesn't want to do anything about it tell him/her that you want to talk to their supervisor. In my experience with my kids and school related issues it has always worked to my advantage to go directly to the principal and tell them what you want to happen and then you need to demand it not ask for it. Tell them that you will not tolerate this kind of behavior, not only from the boys but from the administration as well. I would also go in and talk to her teacher one on one, or if it's happening on the playground at recess I would speak directly to the supervisors out there. Just make you anger and irritation known and it will work in your favor. hope this helps.
2007-03-08 01:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to be your child's best advocate. That's what parents are for. You need to know from your daughter if there were people who can support her story. Then you need to schedule a conference with your daughter's teacher and the principal and present those names. If you don't have people who might have heard the threats you still need to get with the teacher and the principal and come up with a plan to make sure this isn't happening. They need to alert whoever is on duty to be watching these kids.
If that doesn't help or the school is unresponsive your daughter needs you to fight for her. Either keep going up the chain of command in the school system or get her to a safe school.
On the other side you should be working with your daughter to make her more defensible. She doesn't really need to learn physical defense, like karate or judo, but the right programs emphasize personal accomplishment and integrity as more important that the "fighting" which could raise her self esteem. She should be working on her circle of friends to make sure she's not alone with these boys again. If you know and trust anyone who works at the school, you should approach them on the side to look out for her.
2007-03-08 07:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there no way she can change schools? Kids like those that thrive on giving others a hard time need to be put in a special school of their own. Very sorry to hear about your problem, but I don't know what the school can do until something really happens. That sounds bad because all kids should feel safe at school. Maybe if you went in with her and talked to the administration, it might help.
2007-03-08 01:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the school staff needs to be aware of the fact that this is going on...... however, once this is done, the bullying will probably get worse....... I would demand for your daughter to change schools...her education is important, and this is making her not want to go to school.... Growing up, I went to many different schools where this happened.... now my boys are in elementary an d tell me that there are black...and white gangs... this is appauling!!!!!! something has to change!
2007-03-08 02:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the racist stuff ,which it is, but that's not even the point. If you feel your daughter is being bullied especially by two boys, and they threaten her, something needs to be done about it. You said your daughter went to the principal, but you need to go yourself and see that he does his job. They won't listen to the child as much as the parent. Maybe get someone to go with you if you feel you need backup. If he doesn't
cooperate, i don't know. I don't have kids in school myself but there's got to be something you can do about it if you feel your daughter is being harmed. obviously she is emotionally.
One thing I have always kept in mind is no matter who's in charge there's always someone in charge of them. if the principal doesn't help you maybe you can go to the school board.
2007-03-08 01:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Babu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
demand, not ask for, a conference. you,the principal, your daughter's teacher and the boys. they won't take her word for it. many times they think the child is just tatteling. you need to do it. go in with both barrels if you have to.if they will not do anything or if it continues,you have every right to contact the police. let them know that this won't be tolerated.
2007-03-08 07:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's getting to the point where your daughter refuses to go to school because of these bullies, I would let her change schools if that's an option.
2007-03-08 01:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Veruca Salt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My child goes to a all white school. OH HOW NICE. I would never take him to a school with blacks. I know you may not have a choice but they just make things diffrent. They are rude and obnoxious. You need to go to the principals office and demand that these boys be held accountable. Tell them you will go to the news with this story. Definately move if you can!!!! No kid deserves to be treated bad like that.
2007-03-08 02:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by sugarbearj25 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Pull her out and homeschool her or send her to another school.
2007-03-08 04:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋