2007-03-08 01:07:50 · 18 answers · asked by Ogore420@yahoo.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kinky stuff, Bondage, Being whiped, Humiliation. I'd like to see a dominatrix. She says that she would like to try this stuff but is afraid of hurting me. I think i may like a little hurt.
2007-03-08 01:17:01 · update #1
Is there a lesser degree of this that she would be comfortable with?
Since you don't say what the fantasy is, for example we'll say foot fetish. Maybe she's a little freaked out by all the foot touching but would be willing to model shoes for you.
Most people are willing to be a tiny bit open to experimentation. If not, try finding out one of her fantasies and giving it a go. You might like it, and even if not, she might be more willing to try yours.
If all else fails, try your hand at writing out a story about her fulfilling your fantasy. You can read it privately (or she might like to read it, make it flattering and a little romantic if you can, we love that sort of stuff). If nothing else, it will give you a chance to really consider and think about this fantasy.
2007-03-08 01:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your wife to see if she has any fantasies that she would like to try with you? That might open her up to some that you want. The idea in lovemaking is to satisfy both partners and the only way to do so is to find positions etc that you both enjoy and gradually work into other things. If you've been married a long time then the dog is probably too old to train, but don't give up, keep trying. Never force her into something that she emphatically states as distasteful. Tenderness goes a long ways.
2007-03-08 01:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question. This is a touchy issue between men and women. My advice is to not act on those fantasies without her consent. Women and men have different ideas about sex and fantasies.
My marriage was destroyed partly because my ex didn't respect the boundaries I set with regard to sex. I resented him for not respecting me and it really became a sore spot in an already troubled marriage.He was trying to turn me into a porn star and I didn't like it, but it didn't matter to him.
When a woman says no, I don't want to or don't like it, that should be the end of it.
She is your wife, not your possession. You don't have the right to ask her to do things she doesn't want to. She is a human being with feelings, likes and dis-likes and if you respect and nuture that she will purr like a kitten.
GL. Now go find something she IS into.
2007-03-08 01:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy's can range from the simple to the extreme. So unless you are going to get more specific as to what the fantasy actually is its hard to advise. But the bottom line here is that if she is really opposed to what you suggest you could be outta luck. Try making a bet with her on something where the payoff is sexual. Maybe you can slip your fantasy in as a payoff. Just a thought.
2007-03-08 01:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to fantasize. If your partner is not into the things you like, respect that. We all have these feelings of sexually interests that we wish we could do with our partner. And the partner doesn't recipient these fantasies. It is normal. Every one is different in sexual likes and dislikes. I advise you to never go outside of your marriage for sexual gratification. As cheating kills trust.
Especially for women. Once a woman knows her man has strayed her trust is gone forever. Though she doesn't let you know that.
I would talk some more to her about your desires. And be patient. You never know she may come around and please you.
2007-03-08 01:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get a divorce and find a partner that is willing to go along with the fantasy or get over it. You really should have talked to your wife about this sort of thing BEFORE you got married!
2007-03-08 01:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't push the issue with her. Give it some time and maybe you can bring it up again...if she's adamant that she's not interested, then you need to leave your fantasies inside your head.
Btw, what are they? Just curious.
2007-03-08 01:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im looking for some of that action too.Good Luck
2007-03-08 01:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you love her and never would want to leave her, but you need the outlet of pornography to blow off steam. Then use that outlet.
2007-03-08 01:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it's not a hurtful fantasy you should share it with someone who does get into it.
2007-03-08 01:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋