what is it?

Question

what is it about spanking kids that get people so worked up. if you child was to talk back to you, or tell you what to do, would you or would you not spank them.

Answer 1

depends on how old....i don't think a quick slap in the mouth is bad for a foul mouthed teenager.....

Answer 2

Well the govt has made it seem that if you spank your child you are abusing them and they will become psycho killers or something. But honestly I think exactly the opposite has become true. Without discipline (not beating) our children have become just that. psycho. I tried "time out" what a joke. That was just a way for them to sit and think about a way to not get caught the next time. While a couple of whacks on the behind got their attention and made them think twice about doing it again. I constantly go toe to toe with little white haired old ladies in the grocery store. Knowing they used everything from a belt to a switch to beat their kids. I will not tolerate the whole whiny, I want this and I want that and grabbing things off the shelves and throwing tantrums in the store. I'm a single mother and I don't have the time to "leave and come back later" So to correct the problem I correct them. And boy does the fun ensue then. But i simply tell the security guard that by disciplining my kids then and there I am letting them know that they are not acting acceptably in public. And that unlike the kid in the other isle they are not screaming at the top of their lungs and breaking things. This shuts up the little old lady and the security guard gets a laugh.
And there is no way in hades that I will allow my child to talk back. They are children, I am the adult. I pay their bills, put clothes on their backs, food in their stomach, and a roof over their head. They will talk to me in a respectful manner.
My granny used to always say "spare the rod spoil the child". (along with half a million others) And that God gave us a behind for something other than sitting on. So I see no harm in spanking as long as it is not beating. A police officer told me that as long as you don't leave a mark it is okay to spank.

Answer 3

Yes I would. Spanking them is ok in my own oppion but NOT hitting then with an item or a fist. I do try to put my son in corners and sitting in time out but on the surver things I spank. I was raised the same way and not all kid react the same some only need to be put in a corner for a time or in a chair. where others It means nothing to them. they sit and play. There not learning why there there. Even if you tell them. Every child needs to learn respect for there mother or father. I feel you have every right to bunish then but NOT beat them. There is where the difference is. A friend once said to me " a fist is beating an open hand in buntshing them." I think too many children do not get disaplined the right way and later in life they go wild on there parents and the parents cant control them. I hope I helped I dont care about best answer I just want people to know that there is a difference between bunishing and beating. Good luck evey parent needs it.

Answer 4

Well. The bible does stay spare the rod, spoil the child. If a child just gets a little attitude, there is no reason to haul off and go into a spanking frenzy, beating the poor child to death. Many people think it's okay to "whoop" your child. Although, I do not believe in spankings, I think that in some RATIONAL times, its okay to have a spank or two across the bottom. I strongly believe that people should take children's privileges away. Since, children of ALL ages have certain things they like to do, parents should take them away if they act out.

Answer 5

There's a fine line between a "spanking" and a beating in some folks eye, Benjamin. I personally do not think any child should ever be beaten or slapped in the face. That is abusive, and not what we're discussing. I think a small wooden ruler tapped on a child's palm can make a good point. It only stings for a second, and I got the idea from a wonderful kindergarten teacher who used that disciplinary tactic for over 35 years....twice on my own little stinker, once for throwing milk cartons when she stepped out of the room. For some, time out works well. Children differ so much. For some, even a word of correction seems to sink in and nothing else is needed, not even time out. You can see in the child's eyes that your words have hit home! Just never, never spank out of anger and frustration. Discipline means teaching...and instructing....it should always be loving.

Answer 6

It is a tough situation and there is a fine line. In the old days parents backhanded a child in the middle of church and no one said a thing, now a days far less of an act gets child protective services involved. It all has to do with what we as a society have come to accept as wrong. Far too many people cross the line when it comes to child discipline. So someone had to make a thick white line and say this is what you don't do to your kids, this is wrong. When disciplining a child so many people discipline out of anger in the moment, spanking once might be because they were bad, but when you do it 2-3 times it is cause your angry at them. It is tough to raise kids these days. I don't believe in spanking my children, do I think sometimes they probably deserved one? OH YES. On more than one occasion. But knowing that its not the best way to chose to discipline my children, I revert to other ways, time outs, grounding, taking things away, but sometimes it is hard to get the punishment to fit the crime. When this is an issue, I usually punish by making him learn something, hence he needs to read an extra book this term in school, and he doesn't leave the house until he does.

Answer 7

As a last resort. I inform my children that they have went too far and that they are going to receive a spanking. The anticipation has an effect on them. However, I tell them and they get ready. If its done out of anger then you are wrong and if you do it all the time then you are wrong....my opinion. Never approach a child in anger...never! Take a deep breath and walk away and then inform them of their wrong doing and the consequences for those wrong doings. Anyway, I know this is a touchy issue for a lot of people. Parenting is not easy and if you are not a full time parent then you have NO idea what it is truly like.

Answer 8

I will not tolerate my children telling me "no" or what to do. I try to use spanking as a last resort, but I am not against it as a form of discipline.

I am, however, against seeing a parent beating the crap out of their kid in the middle of the mall (or any public area). If my children act up in public, then they are told they can expect a spanking when we are alone...then they have plenty of time to think about their behavior; and I am not embarassing them or myself in front of others.

Answer 9

Kids need that structure but in some areas it is illegal to spank children in public places..It is considered an abuse thing..as long as children don't get welts or bruises I see no problem in spanking young, deserving children.

Answer 10

I would not spank my child. I would talk to them about their behavior and if that doesn't work then they will get grounded and get everything they liike to play with or do taken away from them.

Answer 11

I love the words of Bill Cosby " I brought you into this world and I can take you out"

Yes I agress with you that sometimes a physical reminder is what it take to remind them that they need to behave.