Why do men/women care so much about people who seem to care so little about them, and cheat on them...?

Question

and why do they turn to total strangers on Y!A for advice, to people who don't know them or care about them? Why aren't they talking to their friends and family?

P.S. Don't tell me I know nothing about relationships, I turned myself inside out for someone who treated me like crap.

Answer 1

There is just really no answer to why we choose to love the people that we do sometime knowing that they don't really care. But sometimes it's easier to ask a total stranger on yahoo answers about the things that happen to us than to talk to family members or friends because somethings are just too embarrassing to even talk to them about. And if you ask on here you know nothing about them and they don't know you but sometimes they can give you a good outlook on your situation. And some people may not really care but they care enough to take the time to answer your questions.

Answer 2

I believe that people who hang on to people who treat them badly are suffering from either low self esteem, or the relationships they witnessed growing up were dysfunctional and they believe that that is how it is supposed to be. Not only that, but when you have really strong feelings for someone, you just don't want to admit that it won't work. I can remember trying to decide to break up with someone weighing the pain of being alone against the pain of being with him. It should have been a no-brainer but I remember it taking me weeks to finally make the break.

As to why people ask on a forum like this, well, here,you can be anonymous and get the advice of people who really have nothing invested in the answer. You really care about the opinions of friends and family and you don't want them to judge you. I think some people are asking on this forum to confirm or dispute what friends and family are already telling them.

Answer 3

seems like the trend, stay with someone who treats you like crap when there is really no hope in site, I had a 11 year marriage ( 13 years overall ) to a alcoholic, I liked her personality when she wasnt drunk and always hoped she woudl quit,

as for asking question to strangers,, sometimes telling a stranger your problems offers the best advice,, most strangers will just listen and few have a input, and you dont have the embaressment of knowing the person and hoping they wont tell anyone else you know you are having trouble,

Most friends and family take one side or another, they do not offer options and they are biased,

Answer 4

that person didn't care about you and just remember this "the wisest man becomes a fool when he is in love"
So don't feel bad about anything.. Plus people turn to Y!A because sometimes you can't tell people you know how you feel but you still want to tell someone.. By the way there are some nice people here who won't make fun of your Question and even if they do, Dont care about it...
And find a better girl for yourself.. someone who would care for you the way you are! even if you dont find a girl anytime soon.. Just enjoy your Single Life!

Answer 5

Sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers than family. Sometimes a person finds more acceptance from people who aren't directly involved. People normally care about cheaters because at some point in the relationship, these cheaters swore their eternal love to them, and the person simply wants that commitment back. It's hard to say goodbye, especially to someone you still love. The sin isn't in loving. It's in betraying someone by creating jealousy and pain and that is what unfaithfulness is all about.

Answer 6

1. They feel like a mission has been bestowed upen them: "You can change this person". Where does that voice comes from? From their inner immaturity, inexperience, lack of self-respect and so on.

2. I do turn to complete strangers because they are impartial, they will not take my side (like friends and family do). When we are bothered by something it is always a great idea to get as many angles as possible. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart, when we are definitely not able to think very clearly; any random opinion counts and could help us sober up. Thank you

Answer 7

why turn to a stranger some times its easier to ask for advice then turn to you're family and say.YOU WERE RIGHT!
I would never say something like your PS because all you are doing is asking a question.
When a man cheats on a women we want him to feel that we are what they want we try and make them see that we are better then what they are cheating on use with.Some are some aren't. Me i believe if they cheat to he** with him.Because he approached me not the other way around. i would not be second best to another women ever.

Answer 8

Well its human nature. You are programmed to be like this. Once you become emotionally attached to someone, you become sort of afraid of losing that security, and the less attention they show you, the more amazing they become in your eyes. I am currently not over an ex girlfriend who doesn't want me, doesn't care about me and tries to hurt me intentionally by kissing/flirting with other guys in front of me. I feel so hurt sometimes and miss her so much despite the fact that she used to criticise me constantly during our relationship and was really selfish doing always what was best for her and making me change things about myself for her rather than making any compromises.

Yet my human instincts tell me that I want to be with her, rather than move on and find a better girl even though all my friends tell me she doesn't deserve to have me. When I use my brain rather than my heart, I realise that this is true and I do need to move on and find someone else. Thats life, thats love, it sucks.

Answer 9

In my opinion and my opinion only they ask total strangers because they want a truthful opinion.
Let's face it if you don't know me and I ask a question like what people ask on here you're going to tell me exactly what you think, right. People on here give responses like grow up you know that he's cheating on you.
But if your best friend asked the same question your response might be to try and beat around the bush and let them really come up with the answer themselves because you certainly don't want to be the one to tell them yes he is cheating on you. Not only that but do you want to be the one to hurt your friend.

Answer 10

i think this is a great place to ask questions like the ones you are talking about.. i think people can get a lot of different opinions on here from people who have no personal stake in the problem mentioned

if you only go to friends and family, i dont think you will always get that.. friends and family may only see your side of the story, and may show some bias, therefore, in their opinion of what they think the person should do