whats the bestway to breakup with your gf, but stay frnds?

Question

Iv been with my gf 4 5months nw, but im not happy. i no that she loves me but i dnt feel the same, i dnt wana break her hart, i wana stay frnds with her, she hasnt got ne1 and i dnt wana lose contact,i no we'l b gr8 frnds

Answer 1

If you really want to, and believe that you can, be good friends with her, you should speak to her about it right away. Just tell her that you do care for her and would really like to be friends (only if you really intend to follow through on that though, not just to soothe her ruffled feathers) but that being a couple is not feeling right inside to you now that you've come to know each other better. But learn your lesson and don't get involved with someone else until you know her better and can get a general idea of whether or not it has potential. It will save a lot of hurt. Good luck.

Answer 2

It will hurt her. There is no way to disguise that, you can't help it if that is how you feel. So the best thing you can do is be honest with her.

Tell her that you really do think that she is a great person and you think you'd make great mates and that you want to tell her now rather than in many more months time when her feelings have grown even more. Hopefully if she is a good girl, she'll understand and you'll have a new friend. But you will need to give her some time to get used to it, because if she does love you like you say she does then it is still going to hurt her intially.

Honesty is definately the best policy though.

Good Luck

Answer 3

I can tell you from my own personal experience only 3 weeks ago. Me and my girlf hadnt bin gettin on so i just sat her down and we spoke about even though we loved each other it wasnt working out, there were tears, i wont deny there was. We both agreed tho it wasnt working so ended it and i moved out, we are now friends after a week of bitterness she has realised as i have that we should stay friends until a time comes when we may both mature and get on better together. Hope this helps but just be honest because the longer you leave it the harder it will be.

Answer 4

If you want to stay friends, then there's no way you should tell her that you are gay - who lies to their friends? And how will you maintain that charade?! (unless you are gay of course)
Unfortunately, you're going to have to bite the bullet, being as gentle, kind and honest as you can. She may not want to be friends with you any more, but you can still offer that option and then the ball is in her court. And if you are waiting for the right time - there will never be a right time I'm afraid. I know you don't want to hurt her, but I reckon staying in a relationship that you're not happy with and pretending to like her is much more hurtful.

Answer 5

You are going to hurt her if you stay because things won't be right, but you will hurt her anyway by calling it a day to your relationship. Be strong and just put it as nicely as possible.

I still talk to the majoirty of my ex's even going to one their wedding's this year, if it isn't right and you have the sense to see that, then it is the best course of action.

Don't take her out to do it, do it at home in private, don't do it over the phone or by text. You need to speak to her and make it clear, why and for what reasons, tell her that if she wants we can still be friends, but it is her decision if she chooses to remain friends or not.

Problem is, she may want to re-kindle thigns in the future and may make things difficult, it's whatever is right for the pair of you.

Answer 6

be honest, in the long run she will appreciate that. When you do meet tho dont jump into bed with her as she'll get mixed messages - she'll assume there's a chance to get back together if you do, dont give her flase hope. if you do you will end up hurting her and she'll resent you for using her. But you have to do it sooner rather than later or you might start resenting her. The sooner you do it, the sooner you can both move on. Do it this weekend.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Just be honest. Stop stringing her along.
I doubt you can be friends - it's a cliche but just tell her you don't want to hurt her but you don't want to waste her time.
Someday, after the tears, she will thank you.
She may even admire you for being truthful.

"Listen so and so I really like you but I am just not that in to you the way you want me to be"...

Hug her and just say its best - and you really want to be friends but it may take time. Bring up a few good times but say you just feel differently now. Even if there is another gal, hold off on that.

Answer 9

Just tell her what you have told us.

The quicker the better so you lead her on as long and give her a chance to get over it.

I can't see you being able to stay friends after 5 months.

Sorry, it can be very hard to do what right.

xx

Answer 10

Whether you like it or not, someone always ends up hurt in a broken relationship. Explain to her what's going on and leave it up to HER to decide if she wants to be "just friends". It will take time for her heart to mend. If you care for her, give her that time and space and the permission to have her feelings.