OF COURCE IVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT. AND THAT HE HAS NEVER THOUGHT THAT WAY ABOUT ANYONE BEFORE. AND THEN HE SAID BUT I DONT SEE MUCH BEING DIFFERENT FROM THE WAY THINGS ARE NOW. WHAT IS HE REALLY TRYING TO SAY HERE?
2007-03-08 00:31:33 · 24 answers · asked by lovelife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's saying, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" (Come on, you knew somebody HAD to say it!) In other words, why incur the legal and financial commitment when you're already living with him and having sex with him, and otherwise providing him all the benefits of marriage?
2007-03-08 00:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
He's saying he loves you very much, more than anyone he has ever been with, but still no. I sugest you cajole him into it, or backout of the relationship if that's not what you want. I'm sorry, that was harsh, but reality bites. Otherwise, you could simply ask him what he means, is it a yes or no?
If all he's worried about is hassle, you'll be able to do it. If he has a fear of marriages and all, not good, but he'll come around. If he's not the type to be tied down, then I suggest you forget about it... those guys don't change their mind and you'll only end up being hurt.
If he only wants your body, all I can say is good luck to you. For your sake, I hope not.
2007-03-08 00:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all consider his age....If he is young he might be scared of the M word. If he is 25+ he just might not want to get married because he already has the perfect set up, he's got his woman at home but can walk out at anytime, no strings attached (sorry not trying to sound hateful or rude). I would say just talk to him and let him know that you are confused, ask him if he wants to get married or not. If he says no then I would break it off cuz he is comfortable with the current arrangement and does see the sense in changing things.
2007-03-08 00:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend intends to marry you because he loves you, he'll surely propose even w/o having you ask him. He may be a bit uncertain about his relationship with you at this stage although you live in together and that's why he couldn't give you a concrete answer. Or perhaps he isn't ready for marriage. The best answer to your question lies in him. Only he knows his desires and what's he trying to say.
2007-03-08 00:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, coming from experience of my own personal hell. If they are not willing to marry you then you need to move out. This shows a lack of commitment now and for the future. Very few couples who live together without getting married stay together for their lifetime. If you marry, both parties are saying I commit to you, our life, our future kids, our house. If he doesn't want to marry you leave. I have found it beneficial to stay in your own place until getting married. There is no test-trial living together to see if this will work should we get married. When you marry someone you accept the other person as they are with all their faults and baggage.
2007-03-08 00:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by tx_earthangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he is trying to say that he loves the relationship as it is right now, living together, but still having freedom. I think he sees marriage for what many men do..nothing more than a ball and chain. I wouldn't push the subject. Let HIM propose to you. But if he hasn't done it in a couple of years and your heart is set on getting married, then tell him.
2007-03-08 00:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what he said: he can't see how things would be any different if you got married.
Now you have to make it about you and tell him that that would mean a lot to You. You don't have to try to convince him why and how things would be different, the truth of the matter is you don't know that either. Just say this is something I want! In more words, of course.
2007-03-08 00:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Palmer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is saying
1) he is either not ready to get married or
2) Why buy the cow when the milk is free,
your clue here is LIVE IN BF< why should he marry,, I think marriage is over rated esp after 2 divorces, if I had lived with them I wouldnt be out settlement money on both and could have walked with what I worked for to get, in marriage unless you are having kids I see no sense in it
2007-03-08 00:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He's trying to say that he doesn't see the difference between living together and being married. Why can't you see that? It's basically exactly what he said.
He has a point. If things are good, why ruin them?
2007-03-08 00:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to that he is not ready for that
or the situations with u and him will be same
as it is now ,so there is no need of getting
marry with him.
2007-03-08 00:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋