I need your opinion about this long distance relationship I am having, should I break up with him?

Question

I want people who had long distance relationships to answer me please because the ones who haven't immediately criticize it and I don't want people to be harsh.

Ok I am having this long distance relationship with someone who is from Florida and I am from another state. He isn't very attractive but I felt in love with his heart, he is honest with me and tells me that his life isn't perfect, like he doesn't earn much money, he still lives with his mother at 24, but I still like him the way he is and he is a wonderful person.

I have plans of moving to Florida to continue my life next year but now that I am starting to think about it I am very frightened. My parents don't know about this, they think I am just going to continue my education and work.

I love him very much, we broke up weeks ago, but had to come back because we needed each other very much, but now that I have plans of being close to him, I am getting very scared.

Should I break out with him?

Answer 1

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Yes, you should break up with him and stay broken up.
The reasons:
1) He's 24 and lives with his mom.
This means that he hasn't matured enough to handle financial responsibility, in case you or him thought to relocate. This also means that he's not emotionally mature enough to be independent.

2) He lives in another state.
Unless you guys are looking to relocate (you to Florida or him to where you are), then it will NEVER work out. The reason? There is 365 days in the year.
Long distance relationships usually make about 10 days out the year.
That's 265 other days that you'll be lonely (or him) and this won't last too long without dating, physical contact, etc..

He may be a great guy. He may have great qualities.
But, remember, that is what you know of him OVER THE PHONE and ON THE INTERNET. Not on a day-to-day basis. He's single for a reason. REMEMBER THAT.

Good luck!

Answer 2

1. No, you should not necessarily break up with him. If he's irresponsible and a slacker and living at home with his mother, there's a problem. But you didn't specify what kind of life he leads. Just because someone doesn't make alot of money doesn't mean that they aren't trying. 24 is still young, and so long as he has plans to support himself (and possibly you) living at home is not a problem

2. Money: Money means nothing, really. "Take the poor man's rose over the rich man's gold." Thank Patsy Cline for that one

3. The closeness: I'll assume that you have not seen each other, and if so, have not seen each other for extended periods of time. It isn't uncommon to have that feeling of being scared before seeing him so close. Long distance relationships are tricky that way... people in close distance relationships take for granted all the quirks, facial expressions, habits, etc. of their partner. Experiencing that firsthand after becoming emotionally close to someone is a new and sometimes weird experience. It doesn't mean you should break up with him but i would have a long, serious talk with him about where he's headed in his life, how you two are going to deal with all the new experiences and what will happen. Talking is the best way to sort everything out.

All the best

Answer 3

No, why would you break up with someone who makes you very happy and that you love a lot why would you want to throw that away especially if you plan on moving to Florida next year. And it seems like you two have a good relationship and want to be together so don't let it go for no apparent reason. Think about it because once he's gone you may never get him back.

Answer 4

End it.

One, you've already broken up for reasons not given.

Two: you don't find him attractive; be it his personality or his looks. The fact is that you don't.

You may love him, but are not in love with him...the fact that you got back together after breaking up means nothing; you both got scared and returned to a safe place.

Do both of yourselves a favour and move on.